A sick asshole is still an asshole, right? I believe I've seen this and other thoughts on the matter on here, but I'm needing help remembering/feeling less guilty.
Background:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a59825776/my_mother_and_the_debil_noms_background_page_5_11_texts_15_text_to_dad_17?cpg=17
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a61085581/i-am-really-bad-at-this.
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a61270384/normal-meter-check
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a62082040/to-or-co
My mother is cut off. I have zero wishes to have anything to do with her, she's blocked on all aspects. I'm very close with my dad (they've been divorced for years) and he gets texts from her every now and again, but hasn't replied to her in over 3 years. Just laughs and moves on.
Last month he got texts from her telling him that "They needed to have me mentally evaluated, I was mentally unfit to raise babies since I was witholding her grandbaby from her, and I was being a bully." he Never replied, but thought I should know she was escalating.
Today, he informs me that yesterday (we're next door neighbors) he ignored 3 calls in a row from her (he was sick) and the next thing he knew, his doorbell was ringing. He said he opened the door and she started in on her rampage, with tears and all, claiming "she had been scheduled a colonoscopy, she wanted to make things right with OP before she got the 'bad news of colon cancer', her sister/neice weren't talking when the two of them passed and she didn't want to be like that, blah blah." Then she told him to call me for her, and tell me to come "home" (I was out of town, but obviously my car wasn't home) so she could see her grandbaby.
First of all, NO. I'm not 15. She's always had to have me under her thumb. I was most amused at the 'call her and tell her to come home' and I'm 25 years old. It was an old manipulation tactic she'd pull after I moved out from her house at 14, but in with my dad, she'd show up at his house on my days of importance (homecoming, prom, cheer tryouts) and tell him to make me come HOME over some stupid little excuse for her to bitch at me. I told DH I'm having flashbacks and they're not good flashbacks, either.
Second, she has divorced/seperated/reconciled with her current husband 3-4 times in the past 5 years, and the last time she "took him back" it was because he had a "colonoscopy and she thought he had colon cancer". SO the common "diagnosis" there makes me go hmph.
I have zero interest in having her back in my life. However, if (though I doubt it) she DOES end up having cancer/etc.. I know a LOT of FM's are going to come out of the wood work, and try to guilt trip me. I'm VERY pregnant right now.. And emotional.
Please help me formulate the words behind my feelings? Is that possible? Besides "a sick asshole is still an asshole"...
