On Facebook I have my MIL blocked. She has been blocked for over a year now. This is my second pregnancy and to share in the excitement, I made a post tagging friends, and revealed i'm pregnant. She never knew about this pregnancy. DH swore he never told her. I have all his family on limited profile, and the people on my profile who can see my business, are not friends with his family or know them. MIL called me and said Congrats, when were you going to let me know about this baby. I went ballistic on DH thinking he was lying, but he told me he never told her. Here is how I found out. There is this certain account which always likes and comments on all my stuff. I do not know the person in real life. I added the person last year, according to Facebook. What piqued my interest to look at this account, was when they uploaded firreworks by a beach which is near me. Seeing how I never chatted with them (a female), I started a conversation for friendly nature, and perused their account. The only photos they have are quotes, movie characters, and then photos of around the town I live in. I asked them if they knew me in real life, as I did not know them. They said they do and met me twice in real life before, but we never hung out that much. I never paid attention at first, bu their name on Facebook was odd. The last name looked like a middle name instead of an actual last name. No worry. As i was perusing their account, I decided to check their friends list to see if we had any mutual friends, or if I recognized anyone on their list I may actually know in real life. My MIL on her Facebook account never used her married name. She used her first and middle name. As I was going through the friends list, I came across my MIL's married name from four accounts. They were all open accounts, and I searched to see if DH was on either of their lists. He wasn't. I thought my searching was foolish and to just ignore my vibes.
As I was conversing with the account, they posted something and tagged people. According to Facebook, when you tage people, their names appear black. The post they made was of the movie theaters deciding to seach peoples bag. The first name tagged, was my MIL's. Although I have my MIL blocked, Facebook has it that even though you block a person, you can still see their name even if it is tagged in someone's post, but you would not be able to click on it, as it is not black like the other tagged names. I asked the person how they knew my MIL. They said she taught them, as MIL was a swim coach. To get better understanding, I asked them why they added me last year, because if MIL taught them swimming, they'll have added her son too, which they didn't. They added me because I was on a swim team too and they wanted to be friends with those on the other swim teams. Ok, I was probably fetching at air.
I was not. I had uploaded photos of me, DH and our son. As I went to my timeline, I clicked on "New Posts" and when it scrolled back up automatically, I saw a post from the account mentioned above, and they had uploaded the photos of DH, me and our son. I was livid, I was pissed. Why would the person have done such a thing, I asked myself. I messaged them and asked why in the world would they upload my familys photos on their account. They didn't respond. I reported the photos and it seemed out of sheer guilt, they removed the photos. Pissed, I deleted and block the account. I told DH what happened and he was pissed at how someone could have done such a thing. To be clear, MIL is not on DH's account. I had not even tagged him in the photos, and he was not even on during the time I uploaded the photos. DH and I have issues right now, so I was on his Facebook reading his messages, profile and friends lists of a girl he was with. As I was going through his account, I went on the Timeline page, and while scrolling, his sister had uploaded the same pics I had posted of DH, me and DS. There is no way she could get the photos as she is on my limited profile. So while on DH's profile account, I commented by asking where she got the photos. She said their mom. There was no way for her to have gotten those photos. Stumped, I racked my brain and remembered back to the account which had uploaded my photos. I searched for them while on DH's account, and they had their photo settings set to friends of friends. DH is friends with the same family members. Going through them, all of them were DH and DS photos, and some of me. It meant she had me blocked from seeing her other albums which are the ones of DH, DS and me. It therefore led me to the realization that my MIL was the account in question. Pissed, I reported the profile and stated clearly they were violating my privacy. My next move was going to search for MIL's name. I found her and she has her photos public, as well as her account. All the photos I uploaded after deleting her were on her account. All of them. Pissed, I reported her profile and stated clearly she was violating my privacy, and was using the other account to steal my photos.
After doing all of the above, I called MIL up and told her to mind her own business, and stop putting her nose and eyes where they do not belong as I was not about dealing with her this year like last year. I told her she can enjoy her facebook freedom, but to mind her business. I said freedom, because I expect she'll get deleted soon. This woman got the nerve to tell me she didn't know what I was talking about. I told her she knew because she messed up when she called me to wish Congrats on this pregnancy. She stood by the claim of how her son told her. I told her stay out our business and let me deal with DH and our marriage. We are struggling with it at the moment, and I did not want her involved because she is like a vulture.
My cousin died and his funeral was Friday.. We had a family gathering at the chapel thursday for family and friends to have their alone time. My cousin's wife and I along with my aunt and sister are the ones who planned the funeral. DH's family knows of them. Last week, MIL called to ask which chapel was the family gathering and time. DH and I told her. Not wanting to have anything to do with her, I decided to put her in time out and block all contact with her. So i called my cousin's wife and told her we are not allowing my MIL in at all. If she shows up, have her blocked from entering. She could attend the funeral, but not the family gathering. She was ok with it and we made plans on how to proceed. MIL showed up with wreaths, and was blocked by my older cousins who informed her she was not allowed in, but she could leave her wreaths as the funeral director needed all wreaths. MIL wasn'tt having it, she created a scene, called people names and told DH he was wrong to allow them to treat her so. He told her to go home and have respect because it was not the place and time for such an outburst. I informed DH about what MIL did and told him if he really wants to work at our marriage fresh (his cheating), we do it with just us and no MIL at all. He was clear with it. I'm pondering leaving him, but that is another issue.
Today, I went to a farm with DH and DS to pick fruits. Who do we see there picking fruits? MIL. Coincidence? No. Why? I posted on Facebook how DH, DS and I were going to check out this new farm I heard about, and we were going to pick fruits TODAY. She came up all shocked to see us, pinching at DS's cheeks and saying how it was a delight to see us. She goes to another farm every year and never chooses elsewhere because the farm is owned by her brother. To avoid any talk we went on our way and picked fruits. DH allowed DS to walk around, and as usual, she was trailing us, and beckoned for DS to run to her, and she picked him up. I told DH go get DS and have no talk with her because she knew what she was doing. This woman stalked my whole profile, she knows my activities and plans. Showing up at the farm was a nightmare.
To be honest with ourselves, I told DH don't call her and make any fuss about why she was there. Let's just ignore her.
Seeing we are ignoring her with a time out. Do we continue doing it all the time in the event she is at another place we are to go to? Isn't this stalking behavior?