Boundaries help

I've written out a list of boundaries for my parents (and my in laws but they're pretty good at listening to me) but I've noticed they're more along the lines of me trying to control them instead of controlling my reaction. I'm going to bring them up with my therapist, but I don't see him for a month. So I thought maybe the wise ladies (and gents) of DWIL could give me a hand. So, without further ado:


1. Do not tell me how to raise my children or make comments on my methods. They're what work for my family.

2. Do not make comments about how if DH was not your son in law he wouldn't be working when business is slow. It sends mixed messages.

3. Do not discipline my children. That is DH and my responsibility. Yours is to play with my children.

4. My children are not Prozac. If you are trying to use my children as an emotional band aid, that is unacceptable. I will not allow my children to be made to feel responsible for your emotional state.

5. No more guilt trips. For either myself, DH or my children.

6. Do not force my children to give hugs or kisses. Respect their no without making them feel guilty.

7. I will not always respond to calls/texts/emails right away. Life gets busy so please refrain from making sarcastic comments.

8. Don't try to 'outdo' us when giving presents.