I have been a member since my oldest was a baby but went annon for this post as my sn has my name in it.
I am currently almost 34 weeks pregnant. I will be having a RCS in a little over a month.
My issues is with my mil and I'm gonna call him a duh because that's what he's being.
This is my 4th and final cs. Well duh has decided that his parents are going to come stay with us for a week. Starting the day before my csection. So Monday to Monday or Tuesday He is taking almost two weeks off work. But he's said they are coming to help. I'm gonna be in the hospital most of the time they will be here. I don't need help in the hospital. I'll be in the hospital Tuesday to probably Friday.
The thing that's gonna happen is duh is gonna think he needs to entertain them and I'm gonna be at the hospital by myself.
We had already talked and decided before this that he would be at home with dds at night as mdd starts school the day after my csection. But I'm terrified I'm gonna be all by myself my entire stay.
When I had ydd 4 years ago mil wanted to leave before I was in my room and duh took her back to our apartment. My sister was with me when I held DD for the first time and when I started having complications.
After this last weekend I don't want them coming at all. She was so rude all weekend.
The biggest issue was this. We went to cookout on Sat and duh was playing volleyball with his cousins all day. OK no big deal. It was time to watch fireworks and have smores. And I said duh"are you gonna come sit by me" and he said " I was actually gonna sit by my mom"
Mil said" you get to see him everyday. I don't get to see him very often. And my husband is gone working all the time "
Duh said" you'll have me and dad for a week next month what are you gonna do with your self. " And mil said "and op will be in the hospital" I said "ya getting my stomach cut open to have his baby" and she snapped" they don't cut your stomach open" I just walked away. I couldn't handle it anymore. All I wanted was for my husband to sit by me and the kids as i hadn't seen him all day
We were coming home last night and I was talking to duh in the car about how rude his mom was all weekend. And he said ya she was pretty rude. Then he says" my dad told me when they come up he's gonna bring some money so we can go to casino or batting cages maybe. " I knew this was gonna happen. I honestly don't expect him to spend every second up at the hospital but I don't want to be alone the whole time.
I can't have baby in my room if I'm by myself.
Another issue is mil stays awake til 6 or 7 in the morning. Then sleeps til noon. Thats not gonna work in my house. Especially if she snaps at the kids like she did all weekend. Ydd4 was trying to ask her a question about the light and she snapped at her " will stop asking me questions I just woke up and I need my coffee" it was 1130 and she made DD cry.
I wanted to leave all weekend but was almost 3 hours from home.
Part of me hopes I go into labor early just so they aren't here. I already am so anxious and nervous about this delivery. And all this is just making it work. I don't want to be miserable in my own home. Especially after having lo.
What can I say to dh? He's so excited for his parents to come up here. I feel like he forgets the whole reason. We are gonna have another little girl. I feel like he is more excited for his parents. He's all for them coming and I'm not. And I haven't said anything to mil thus far. But I don't know how much longer I can keep my mouth shut. How do I get him to see all this?
I am currently almost 34 weeks pregnant. I will be having a RCS in a little over a month.
My issues is with my mil and I'm gonna call him a duh because that's what he's being.
This is my 4th and final cs. Well duh has decided that his parents are going to come stay with us for a week. Starting the day before my csection. So Monday to Monday or Tuesday He is taking almost two weeks off work. But he's said they are coming to help. I'm gonna be in the hospital most of the time they will be here. I don't need help in the hospital. I'll be in the hospital Tuesday to probably Friday.
The thing that's gonna happen is duh is gonna think he needs to entertain them and I'm gonna be at the hospital by myself.
We had already talked and decided before this that he would be at home with dds at night as mdd starts school the day after my csection. But I'm terrified I'm gonna be all by myself my entire stay.
When I had ydd 4 years ago mil wanted to leave before I was in my room and duh took her back to our apartment. My sister was with me when I held DD for the first time and when I started having complications.
After this last weekend I don't want them coming at all. She was so rude all weekend.
The biggest issue was this. We went to cookout on Sat and duh was playing volleyball with his cousins all day. OK no big deal. It was time to watch fireworks and have smores. And I said duh"are you gonna come sit by me" and he said " I was actually gonna sit by my mom"
Mil said" you get to see him everyday. I don't get to see him very often. And my husband is gone working all the time "
Duh said" you'll have me and dad for a week next month what are you gonna do with your self. " And mil said "and op will be in the hospital" I said "ya getting my stomach cut open to have his baby" and she snapped" they don't cut your stomach open" I just walked away. I couldn't handle it anymore. All I wanted was for my husband to sit by me and the kids as i hadn't seen him all day
We were coming home last night and I was talking to duh in the car about how rude his mom was all weekend. And he said ya she was pretty rude. Then he says" my dad told me when they come up he's gonna bring some money so we can go to casino or batting cages maybe. " I knew this was gonna happen. I honestly don't expect him to spend every second up at the hospital but I don't want to be alone the whole time.
I can't have baby in my room if I'm by myself.
Another issue is mil stays awake til 6 or 7 in the morning. Then sleeps til noon. Thats not gonna work in my house. Especially if she snaps at the kids like she did all weekend. Ydd4 was trying to ask her a question about the light and she snapped at her " will stop asking me questions I just woke up and I need my coffee" it was 1130 and she made DD cry.
I wanted to leave all weekend but was almost 3 hours from home.
Part of me hopes I go into labor early just so they aren't here. I already am so anxious and nervous about this delivery. And all this is just making it work. I don't want to be miserable in my own home. Especially after having lo.
What can I say to dh? He's so excited for his parents to come up here. I feel like he forgets the whole reason. We are gonna have another little girl. I feel like he is more excited for his parents. He's all for them coming and I'm not. And I haven't said anything to mil thus far. But I don't know how much longer I can keep my mouth shut. How do I get him to see all this?