I have had a fine relationship with my MIL so far. Now that I'm 8 weeks along with her first grandchild of her only child, she is slowly becoming a bit more brave. She started with subtly throwing into conversation "I don't care what you name it, as long as it's a 'normal' biblical name".... My husband and I don't share the same religion. She knows this won't play a major role in naming or post birth events. THEN she finds a moment to tell me what a great birthing buddy she is. She asked if I would want her to be MY birthing buddy. Ummmmmm NO! I told her I plan to have just my husband and I in the room. She responded... " you can have more than one person"... I said again, all I want is him. I'm not comfortable with others seeing me so vulnerable and it's a very private and intimate moment I would like to share with just him (reasonable I though...) So, her response to that was to doubt my husbands ability to keep his stomach for the long haul and he will probably end up waiting in the hall just like his father did. She would hate to have to see me go through this alone because sometimes even the doctors and nurses forget about you and then I would really be alone. I told her (and I meant it) that if that was the case, then I would still prefer to be alone than to have family or in-laws in the room. AND if it were to for some reason it would be MY mother and not my MIL! Really?! I broke the news to her that my actual plan was to do what my step brother did. And that was deliver the baby and recover a second (clean up and such) THEN call the parents and invite them to the hospital. I don't even want them pacing the waiting room. That would be too much pressure for me. My one regret on my wedding day was not having anytime to myself. I felt I was pulled in a million directions and bombarded by hugs and well wishes all with good intent of course! But I never had a moment to reflect and really enjoy the moment for what it was. And I spent the entire morning/afternoon making sure others were making happy memories. I don't want that when giving birth to OUR baby. I also know that I am not pleasant when I am woken up from a nice sleep. I can only imagine what I will look like when I am in labor! I'm afraid I'm going to get mean 😊 Lastly, of course MIL slipped all this in when my husband leaves for the bathroom or goes to the other room to chat with his dad. She's never sAid any of this around my husband, so she much know that we both wouldn't be okay with this. What really is upsetting me is the way she approached it. Scaring me into saying yes, so I wouldn't be alone. I felt it was slimey. QUESTION: am I overreacting? Am I justified? Has anyone else had similar situations? We still have a loooong ways to go! Thanks!
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