DuH and I have an infant daughter. His family is enmeshed- he has to call his mother/parents everyday or they have a crying fit. MIL was around for birth of the baby and though helpful made it a lot about herself and her sister (AIL) and how they raised their babies. I got an earful how I shouldnt breastfeed and just give formula. I had difficulty with EBF and MIL did a CBF everytime I had an LC appointment - this is relevant further. I am preparing to go back to work, planning to pump. MIL insisting that I switch to formula and table food (currently EBF) and send baby to her to raise till she is older. She feels I can facetime my baby in evenings - ya right. Her reasoning is that anyways I will barely see my baby and have a stranger nanny raise her (we interviewed and vetted many before we hired). I start working soon will pump milk. DuH fails to shut this down, says thats not what we are doing (weaning completely) and bean dips when talking to them on the phone. Overall I am tired of enmeshment, Pils getting preferred over me and constant face-timing. And being constantly compared to AILs DIL whos all great 😒. Am I wrong to go back to work? I love my LO and it is a very tough decision to begin with.
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