So I've posted here a time or two before but I mostly lurk. Dwil has really helped me with my spine (and my dh's spine) when it comes to dealing with ILs.
Without getting into too much background, MIL doesn't like me and has accused me of "ruining their family". Things progressively got more bsc with her after relationship milestones (marriage, birth of ds...), DH was being a duh and not protecting me, but he has been mostly gold star for the past year or so. He has been handling mil on his own and shuts her down before it gets back to me.
We've been able to maintain lc easily with ils because we live 3 hours north of them. DH received a job offer back down much closer to hometown. We will most likely be moving in a month or so. DH told me yesterday that he told fil the good news regarding job offer and fil expressed that he misses us and is sad because fammmmillly. I didn't say anything at the moment but I see a unicorn emerging...I think DH is going to forget that just because we will be moving closer to ILs does NOT mean I nor lo are going to be spending more time with them. I'm perfectly fine seeing them every few months for a few hours and that's about all I'm willing to do. I am fine if DH wants to see his parents without us, he know this but doesn't usually want to.
My question is how do I gently explain this to DH? Like I said, he's done a great job lately but I'm scared of this friggen unicorn I see headed my way. I say gently bc I don't want to make DH feel bad but I want him to understand where I stand on all this. If I need to explain more just let me know.
Without getting into too much background, MIL doesn't like me and has accused me of "ruining their family". Things progressively got more bsc with her after relationship milestones (marriage, birth of ds...), DH was being a duh and not protecting me, but he has been mostly gold star for the past year or so. He has been handling mil on his own and shuts her down before it gets back to me.
We've been able to maintain lc easily with ils because we live 3 hours north of them. DH received a job offer back down much closer to hometown. We will most likely be moving in a month or so. DH told me yesterday that he told fil the good news regarding job offer and fil expressed that he misses us and is sad because fammmmillly. I didn't say anything at the moment but I see a unicorn emerging...I think DH is going to forget that just because we will be moving closer to ILs does NOT mean I nor lo are going to be spending more time with them. I'm perfectly fine seeing them every few months for a few hours and that's about all I'm willing to do. I am fine if DH wants to see his parents without us, he know this but doesn't usually want to.
My question is how do I gently explain this to DH? Like I said, he's done a great job lately but I'm scared of this friggen unicorn I see headed my way. I say gently bc I don't want to make DH feel bad but I want him to understand where I stand on all this. If I need to explain more just let me know.