So a few weeks ago dh and I went to visit both sets of parents. We live far away from them so we tend to always see both when we visit.
We were at my parents about 3 days and on the last day my mom asked me to go downstairs with her because she wanted to know if I wanted something from a dead family friend. It was some craft stuff that got put into their basement after cleaning her house and they just refound it.
My mom then asked me to sit down and talk with her, super odd because anything but small talk is like pulling teeth with her. So I sit in anticipation wondering what she has to say as she finds her words. She asks me not to get mad and I tell her I won't, thinking it's something stupid because that's normally what she asks. She then let's me know that I look like putting on weight (I put on about 10lbs from hormone shots trying to get pregnant but I don't want her to know that at all, and it's a long story why I would get mad at her calling me fat) she asks if I'm eating right or if anything medically is wrong.
Now for me lying comes as naturally as breathing when it involves my parents (long childhood story) but I'm trying to get better about that, I don't want to lie to then but I don't want them to know either so I white lie and tell her it is something medical but the doctor's have it handled and not to worry, hey have you heard from uncle lately?
Totally backfires because she asks again what's wrong. I tell her I have it handled but she won't give up so I tell her it's something weird with my period and they have me on steroids to help it. The rest of the conversation was fine, I learned medical history that i didn't know that I can now tell my doctor but I don't know I feel icky for telling her that much.
I'm looking for advice on what to say next time that might work better. I felt cornered and not having dh there didn't help.
We were at my parents about 3 days and on the last day my mom asked me to go downstairs with her because she wanted to know if I wanted something from a dead family friend. It was some craft stuff that got put into their basement after cleaning her house and they just refound it.
My mom then asked me to sit down and talk with her, super odd because anything but small talk is like pulling teeth with her. So I sit in anticipation wondering what she has to say as she finds her words. She asks me not to get mad and I tell her I won't, thinking it's something stupid because that's normally what she asks. She then let's me know that I look like putting on weight (I put on about 10lbs from hormone shots trying to get pregnant but I don't want her to know that at all, and it's a long story why I would get mad at her calling me fat) she asks if I'm eating right or if anything medically is wrong.
Now for me lying comes as naturally as breathing when it involves my parents (long childhood story) but I'm trying to get better about that, I don't want to lie to then but I don't want them to know either so I white lie and tell her it is something medical but the doctor's have it handled and not to worry, hey have you heard from uncle lately?
Totally backfires because she asks again what's wrong. I tell her I have it handled but she won't give up so I tell her it's something weird with my period and they have me on steroids to help it. The rest of the conversation was fine, I learned medical history that i didn't know that I can now tell my doctor but I don't know I feel icky for telling her that much.
I'm looking for advice on what to say next time that might work better. I felt cornered and not having dh there didn't help.
