Hi ladies, long time BBC member here. I'm part of private boards here, and was told to come to this group. If anyone wishes a CF I would do it.
DH's dad remarried two years ago. She's a sweet person but has a tendency to do things her own way. We had our third DS three months ago. If we are having people over, we invite them. Everytime we invite my in laws, I have to be looking over my shoulder at SMIL. I've caught her changing a clean diaper, I've caught her feeding DS even when he's not to be fed, I've caught her doing skin to skin, and she keeps asking to bathe him. I don't want anyone except me and DH bathing DS, or our other kids. With skin to skin, she tries to use our DS NICU stay as reason to continue doing it. He only came home in mid June. In the NICU we had to do lots of kangaroo care. DH did it, I did it, and DH mom did it. SMIL wanted to do it in the NICU so we let her do it once.
We were back in NICU after he came home, only for four days. Everyday she must call to ask about how he's doing. We've had to tell her he's susceptible to sicknesses so please stop with the skin to skin. For my shower I was given a nice tub for bathing my baby. Mysteriously, it ended up getting a crack in it. She decided to buy a new one and keeps asking when well allow her to christen it by bathing our son. We told her politely we don't wish to make it a habit of anyone bathing our kids, and ask our wishes be understood.
One time explaining yourself with boundaries seems fine. Twice, seems it's going in one ear and out the next. Three times is blatant annoyance. We don't want to come across as rude, but civil with understanding. I'm not sure if she's BSC or just genuinely a pest who is nosey and expects to have a role in everything.
I was told we should be big bad wolves to get our point across to see if she would understand. I'm not sure whether it'll help.
DH's dad remarried two years ago. She's a sweet person but has a tendency to do things her own way. We had our third DS three months ago. If we are having people over, we invite them. Everytime we invite my in laws, I have to be looking over my shoulder at SMIL. I've caught her changing a clean diaper, I've caught her feeding DS even when he's not to be fed, I've caught her doing skin to skin, and she keeps asking to bathe him. I don't want anyone except me and DH bathing DS, or our other kids. With skin to skin, she tries to use our DS NICU stay as reason to continue doing it. He only came home in mid June. In the NICU we had to do lots of kangaroo care. DH did it, I did it, and DH mom did it. SMIL wanted to do it in the NICU so we let her do it once.
We were back in NICU after he came home, only for four days. Everyday she must call to ask about how he's doing. We've had to tell her he's susceptible to sicknesses so please stop with the skin to skin. For my shower I was given a nice tub for bathing my baby. Mysteriously, it ended up getting a crack in it. She decided to buy a new one and keeps asking when well allow her to christen it by bathing our son. We told her politely we don't wish to make it a habit of anyone bathing our kids, and ask our wishes be understood.
One time explaining yourself with boundaries seems fine. Twice, seems it's going in one ear and out the next. Three times is blatant annoyance. We don't want to come across as rude, but civil with understanding. I'm not sure if she's BSC or just genuinely a pest who is nosey and expects to have a role in everything.
I was told we should be big bad wolves to get our point across to see if she would understand. I'm not sure whether it'll help.