I have history on here. Long story short, DH is a recovering DUH. We are in marital and individual counseling to deal with how him putting his mother first and disregarding my needs nearly wrecked our marriage. Of course everything ramped up after baby number 1. They have been on TO from me and the kids for nearly 1.5 years now.
DH rarely talks to them, but health issues: cancer and recent hospitalization have caused increased contact. He almost never speaks to them on the phone as he can't get in a word edgewise with his overbearing narcissistic mom, and recognizes his inability to see and call out her BSC in the moment. FIL is a huge enabler with narcissistic tendencies as well as other diagnosed mental illness that makes him a bit unusual and quirky.
DH is highly successful and treated like a 12 year old. They have basically lost their minds as he has finally started to stand up for himself after I demanded therapy. Prior to therapy, he thought it was a me problem and that he was fine. He knows better now.
I have his parents blocked on FB and have unfriended nearly his entire family after someone shared pics of my kids with MIL. He checks on their pages rarely. His mom appears inactive. I checked yesterday after nearly 2 months and found this gem of a post from a friend of IL'S on FIL'S page
Important to note: FIL threatened GPR a year ago and DH told him if the topic ever arose again, they would never see our kids again. Mostly snail mail contact since. GPR do not apply in my state if you are married, so no worries there. They live in another state 6 hours away.
Approx the time of the FB post (early august) We received letters from them saying they would respect our boundaries and wanted to drive here for counseling as their therapist felt like it was the only way to fix things. They ask about kids constantly (ignoring boundary) but have only mentioned me once, to blame me. I didn't like the counseling idea for many reasons, and felt that they were trying to separate him from me with some unicorn therapist to regain control over him.
I will paste the letter in comments. I need advice for DH (I will share comments by reading to him) and also advice how to address this on FB.
I also told him he will have to post something saying we are not talking to his parents and anyone who feels the need to share our life with them against our wishes should go ahead and unfriend themselves.
He has family on restricted and I am the only one who posts pics of kids.
DH rarely talks to them, but health issues: cancer and recent hospitalization have caused increased contact. He almost never speaks to them on the phone as he can't get in a word edgewise with his overbearing narcissistic mom, and recognizes his inability to see and call out her BSC in the moment. FIL is a huge enabler with narcissistic tendencies as well as other diagnosed mental illness that makes him a bit unusual and quirky.
DH is highly successful and treated like a 12 year old. They have basically lost their minds as he has finally started to stand up for himself after I demanded therapy. Prior to therapy, he thought it was a me problem and that he was fine. He knows better now.
I have his parents blocked on FB and have unfriended nearly his entire family after someone shared pics of my kids with MIL. He checks on their pages rarely. His mom appears inactive. I checked yesterday after nearly 2 months and found this gem of a post from a friend of IL'S on FIL'S page
Important to note: FIL threatened GPR a year ago and DH told him if the topic ever arose again, they would never see our kids again. Mostly snail mail contact since. GPR do not apply in my state if you are married, so no worries there. They live in another state 6 hours away.
Approx the time of the FB post (early august) We received letters from them saying they would respect our boundaries and wanted to drive here for counseling as their therapist felt like it was the only way to fix things. They ask about kids constantly (ignoring boundary) but have only mentioned me once, to blame me. I didn't like the counseling idea for many reasons, and felt that they were trying to separate him from me with some unicorn therapist to regain control over him.
I will paste the letter in comments. I need advice for DH (I will share comments by reading to him) and also advice how to address this on FB.
I also told him he will have to post something saying we are not talking to his parents and anyone who feels the need to share our life with them against our wishes should go ahead and unfriend themselves.
He has family on restricted and I am the only one who posts pics of kids.
