Hello! It seems this is a pretty common issue so I'd love some advice. My MIL is super sweet and so far we have a good relationship. Since finding out I was pregnant she was super excited (first grandbaby on both sides) but baby is almost 6 months and I'm now getting very annoyed. At first she bought us stuff for baby (big stuff) without ever consulting us. I let it go because I knew I would seem ungrateful. Then she bought her own car seat to use (again never asked) and it was used which concerned me since it is a car seat. My husband thought I was being crazy so I let it go. Then, she bought and gave my baby Orajel and told me after (FDA says this is a big no no). Instead of addressing it I bought the natural kind and put that in the diaper bag instead.
So the other day my husband picks up baby (she watches her 2 days a week which I am very appreciative of) and she gave him some baby food and told him how she had fed the baby rice cereal for the first time!!! (Thank god it wasn't actually the first time but she doesn't know that!)
To me it seems super obvious that it is completely inappropriate to give my child food or medicine without asking. My husband can't understand why this wrong. How do I get him to understand and get her to stop without seeming like the bitchy DIL? I'm starting to get paranoid that someday she will get her her first haircut or pierce her ears or God knows what else. Please help!