I posted a few months ago about my SIL (my DH brothers wife) I am mobile so don't know how to post the BG post here. Anyways I have been up since 2:30 am trying to decide where I go from here...
Basically short BG been married 7 almost 8 years and over those 7 years I have tried to connect with my SIL but she has been passive aggressive and in December we got Into a big blow out and I decide I was done and she blocked me on social media or so I thought.
We haven't talked in 9 months even though my BIL and her were suppose to come visit back in July but never came.
My DH and I have gotten in many fights over SIL and how he thinks I should rug sweep everything because of "family" !! I had our 20 weeks u/s for our #4 child yesterday and I posted one of the pictures we got on Instagram and made a post about cutting people off because they were toxic and choose a path of hurt and pain. I was referring to my drug addict father who has been on drugs my whole life and will not change. My husband told me he would never be around our kids after being put in jail last year. I agree and support that my father has no right to see my kids and will not meet our new little one. Even though it hurts to know he choose drugs over my kids and me it's what is best at this point.
Well I woke at 2:30am to my 1 year old crying. So I gave him a bottle and was going to go back to sleep then I checked my phone and had a friend request from sister in law. I thought maybe it was time for us to talk so I added her. Then I saw she had left a comment on my Instagram. Oh my god she thought the post I made about my dad was about her and basically said I was wrong to call her and BIL toxic and for me to post that on social media was low. And they were just talking about seeing us and why would we cut them off fron seeing our kids when BIL is DH's brother.
I have never made a post on social media about her and my situation. So I told her basically we haven't talked and this wasn't about her it was about my drug addict father. Then I was so pissed and thought about what to write next. To sum it up I told her 1) we haven't talked in 9 months so why would posted about her now 2) I would not keep my kids away from there cousins 3) we would see them next Sunday ( that one is debatable now) 4) if I wanted to cut people off from me and my kids if they were toxic rather it be family, friends, or anything other wise, I could because I was the parent and they are my kids. I told her I was sorry she felt the post was about her but it wasn't and isn't my problem.
I showed the message to my DH ( who has a big unicorn for family) and he said I respond well and that the ball was in her court. She was wrong and he knew I was talking about my dad.
But I can't get past the fact that I am not wanting anything to do with her. After 9 months of not talking she thinks I would post something about her. It also makes me think that no matter what I do she will always think it's about her.
I told my husband at this point I don't want to see them next Sunday. He asked me to wait and see what she says before rushing into things. But at this point I am DONE! And what else has me stomped is why add me back on facebook if she thought I made a post about her?!?!
So the question what do I do now? Do I wait to see if she says sorry? Bh everything from her?
Basically short BG been married 7 almost 8 years and over those 7 years I have tried to connect with my SIL but she has been passive aggressive and in December we got Into a big blow out and I decide I was done and she blocked me on social media or so I thought.
We haven't talked in 9 months even though my BIL and her were suppose to come visit back in July but never came.
My DH and I have gotten in many fights over SIL and how he thinks I should rug sweep everything because of "family" !! I had our 20 weeks u/s for our #4 child yesterday and I posted one of the pictures we got on Instagram and made a post about cutting people off because they were toxic and choose a path of hurt and pain. I was referring to my drug addict father who has been on drugs my whole life and will not change. My husband told me he would never be around our kids after being put in jail last year. I agree and support that my father has no right to see my kids and will not meet our new little one. Even though it hurts to know he choose drugs over my kids and me it's what is best at this point.
Well I woke at 2:30am to my 1 year old crying. So I gave him a bottle and was going to go back to sleep then I checked my phone and had a friend request from sister in law. I thought maybe it was time for us to talk so I added her. Then I saw she had left a comment on my Instagram. Oh my god she thought the post I made about my dad was about her and basically said I was wrong to call her and BIL toxic and for me to post that on social media was low. And they were just talking about seeing us and why would we cut them off fron seeing our kids when BIL is DH's brother.
I have never made a post on social media about her and my situation. So I told her basically we haven't talked and this wasn't about her it was about my drug addict father. Then I was so pissed and thought about what to write next. To sum it up I told her 1) we haven't talked in 9 months so why would posted about her now 2) I would not keep my kids away from there cousins 3) we would see them next Sunday ( that one is debatable now) 4) if I wanted to cut people off from me and my kids if they were toxic rather it be family, friends, or anything other wise, I could because I was the parent and they are my kids. I told her I was sorry she felt the post was about her but it wasn't and isn't my problem.
I showed the message to my DH ( who has a big unicorn for family) and he said I respond well and that the ball was in her court. She was wrong and he knew I was talking about my dad.
But I can't get past the fact that I am not wanting anything to do with her. After 9 months of not talking she thinks I would post something about her. It also makes me think that no matter what I do she will always think it's about her.
I told my husband at this point I don't want to see them next Sunday. He asked me to wait and see what she says before rushing into things. But at this point I am DONE! And what else has me stomped is why add me back on facebook if she thought I made a post about her?!?!
So the question what do I do now? Do I wait to see if she says sorry? Bh everything from her?