Does anyone else get annoyed when other's say MY baby besides SO? Lately I have becomed annoyed when MIL says My baby. Maybe it's just other things that I kept bottling up.
For example: day of delivery she wanted to be in the delivery room during the process. I said no and she made a whole ordeal about it. To the point FIL texted me this long text about how dare I ask that of them, after they took me in like a daughter, and he shall still see his son even if it meant the hospital parking lot. Confused I replied not sure what he meant about the parking lot and that I had all the rights to ask for my labor and delivery to be intimate and only share it with SO. They would be called once the baby was delivered and welcomed to visit. She guilt trip SO to the point he was doubting his decision of supporting me and stated, "my parents should be part of this moment; my mom said she won't be able to see me cut the umbilical cord." 32 hours(induced without painkillers really trying for natural birth) into the delivery, I gave him the evil eye and told him, she had her moment and this was mine and his. If he wanted to stay and respect my wishes. He stood his ground.
When they finally got to the hospital room not even 5 minutes into the visit stated "ok lets go because I don't want to step on your toes." FIL looked at her than at me and asked if he could stay longer. I smiled and replied "of course I don't mind how long they stayed I just wanted my L&D to be private." Next day she visited: she told her friends, "no I can't go and spend too much time at the hospital because Allie will get mad and she'll rip my head off if you come with me." I smiled stating, "I never said that you're welcome to stay as long as you want and bring your friends; I just wanted my L&D private (confident thanks the ladies May 2016 agreeing my decision wasn't selfish; didn't know about this board at the time)." She rolled her eyes and agreed.
MIL keeps pushing the envelope of getting DD's ears pierced. SO and I both said no several occasions but she continues. I even said its DD's decision if she wants it and we'll make it a date. MIL just asked last weekend again and I ignored her. I want to use either organic products or safer baby products with less chemicals. She fusses stating that's a waste of money and I can't shelter my child. I smile all the time and state yes it's expensive but it's my choice to use safer baby products that I can control and I am not using all organic items just her creams, body wash,dish soap, and detergent. She is still being introduced to harsh chemicals through clothing, toys, and breastmilk (I can't afford organic food so it's somewhat contaminated with pesticides, additives, and other substances).
I even bought the essentials she needs when watching LO because it's my choice, so I think I should provide the items for her. mIL decided to get body wash and started complain about it being $9.99. In my head I am thinking you aren't bathing her because that will be part of her night routine once at home, so I didn't get it for you. LO will be able to roll in dirt when she gets older and I don't feel like I am sheltering her. Shoot she goes on the grass on top of the blanket.
DD poops after almost all feeding which is normal because of breastmilk. All the time after she poops or fart MIL yells, "OmG you need to stop eating whatever you are eating." She tells me she cooked dinner and to go over. Mind you I go every single week so they can see LO randomly. She says oh I am always cooking for you I'm tired of it. So I stopped going over to eat dinner even when invited.
I miss a daily picture (sometimes I just run out of time and send one in the evening) I get a text where is my daily picture. I think in my head we just spent the whole day with you so I thought I could send it in the evening or the day isn't over. She's even talking about Holiday things she wants to do with my DD. I interrupted her letting her know I wanted to do a few things with her first. She looked at me and chuckled stating yeah sure.
Last but not least I have always wanted to be called Mama (mom in Spanish) and maybe another Spanish speaking lady can help me but I am pretty sure it's mom. She wants to be called Mama and I already asked her to please use another name because to me it meant mom and I am mom; she could be Mum mum, glamma, abuelita, abuela just not mama or mami. Yes she even tried mami aka mommy. I don't care if FIL uses papa (which to means dad) since it's not my title. 😂 she said no to mum mum because she isn't white and is Latina. What? You never use Spanish, I tired talking to her in Spanish and she replies in English.
Maybe I am wrong and know you ladies will put me in check if I am. Just venting and needing advice. I just feel like if she doesn't get it her way she tries different ways to get it her way. Like I said I know you ladies will put me in check if needed so let me hear it😳😊
Oh yea DD cries she has to be hungry and MIL even said, "are you feeding her?" What of course I am she gaining weight don't you see her cute rolls. ETA: updated title
For example: day of delivery she wanted to be in the delivery room during the process. I said no and she made a whole ordeal about it. To the point FIL texted me this long text about how dare I ask that of them, after they took me in like a daughter, and he shall still see his son even if it meant the hospital parking lot. Confused I replied not sure what he meant about the parking lot and that I had all the rights to ask for my labor and delivery to be intimate and only share it with SO. They would be called once the baby was delivered and welcomed to visit. She guilt trip SO to the point he was doubting his decision of supporting me and stated, "my parents should be part of this moment; my mom said she won't be able to see me cut the umbilical cord." 32 hours(induced without painkillers really trying for natural birth) into the delivery, I gave him the evil eye and told him, she had her moment and this was mine and his. If he wanted to stay and respect my wishes. He stood his ground.
When they finally got to the hospital room not even 5 minutes into the visit stated "ok lets go because I don't want to step on your toes." FIL looked at her than at me and asked if he could stay longer. I smiled and replied "of course I don't mind how long they stayed I just wanted my L&D to be private." Next day she visited: she told her friends, "no I can't go and spend too much time at the hospital because Allie will get mad and she'll rip my head off if you come with me." I smiled stating, "I never said that you're welcome to stay as long as you want and bring your friends; I just wanted my L&D private (confident thanks the ladies May 2016 agreeing my decision wasn't selfish; didn't know about this board at the time)." She rolled her eyes and agreed.
MIL keeps pushing the envelope of getting DD's ears pierced. SO and I both said no several occasions but she continues. I even said its DD's decision if she wants it and we'll make it a date. MIL just asked last weekend again and I ignored her. I want to use either organic products or safer baby products with less chemicals. She fusses stating that's a waste of money and I can't shelter my child. I smile all the time and state yes it's expensive but it's my choice to use safer baby products that I can control and I am not using all organic items just her creams, body wash,dish soap, and detergent. She is still being introduced to harsh chemicals through clothing, toys, and breastmilk (I can't afford organic food so it's somewhat contaminated with pesticides, additives, and other substances).
I even bought the essentials she needs when watching LO because it's my choice, so I think I should provide the items for her. mIL decided to get body wash and started complain about it being $9.99. In my head I am thinking you aren't bathing her because that will be part of her night routine once at home, so I didn't get it for you. LO will be able to roll in dirt when she gets older and I don't feel like I am sheltering her. Shoot she goes on the grass on top of the blanket.
DD poops after almost all feeding which is normal because of breastmilk. All the time after she poops or fart MIL yells, "OmG you need to stop eating whatever you are eating." She tells me she cooked dinner and to go over. Mind you I go every single week so they can see LO randomly. She says oh I am always cooking for you I'm tired of it. So I stopped going over to eat dinner even when invited.
I miss a daily picture (sometimes I just run out of time and send one in the evening) I get a text where is my daily picture. I think in my head we just spent the whole day with you so I thought I could send it in the evening or the day isn't over. She's even talking about Holiday things she wants to do with my DD. I interrupted her letting her know I wanted to do a few things with her first. She looked at me and chuckled stating yeah sure.
Last but not least I have always wanted to be called Mama (mom in Spanish) and maybe another Spanish speaking lady can help me but I am pretty sure it's mom. She wants to be called Mama and I already asked her to please use another name because to me it meant mom and I am mom; she could be Mum mum, glamma, abuelita, abuela just not mama or mami. Yes she even tried mami aka mommy. I don't care if FIL uses papa (which to means dad) since it's not my title. 😂 she said no to mum mum because she isn't white and is Latina. What? You never use Spanish, I tired talking to her in Spanish and she replies in English.
Maybe I am wrong and know you ladies will put me in check if I am. Just venting and needing advice. I just feel like if she doesn't get it her way she tries different ways to get it her way. Like I said I know you ladies will put me in check if needed so let me hear it😳😊
Oh yea DD cries she has to be hungry and MIL even said, "are you feeding her?" What of course I am she gaining weight don't you see her cute rolls. ETA: updated title
