So today DH had a text exchange with his mother that really upset him. I'd like to share it with you to see what you think.
Yesterday she was trying to come over, and DH held his ground and said no because we were busy. This was not his initial reaction. Despite being busy he immediately started trying to figure out how to drop everything to accomodate her ever, but realized what he was doing and decided to just say no. Yay for DH.
Yesterday after her inviting herself over:
DH: Not sure how tomorrow looks. We start ________ in the afternoon and get our shipment in the morning.
MIL: I see
MIL: We will drop them off then, if that is okay.
DH That's fine! Sorry we are playing hardcore catch up at the moment.
MIL: No worries
MIL: We understand
Today:
MIL: Are you guys driving the the wedding with us? In your own car of course.
DH: Sorry, thought we mentioned it. We have _________ this weekend. We can't make it.
DH: We talked about it during the family get together
MIL: Wow
MIL:That's disappointing.
MIL Last I heard, you had set the date aside because you had plenty of notice.
DH: Sorry no, I can't cancel ____. We need it.
MIL: I hope you told them as they have asked a couple of times to make sure you were coming.
MIL: Oh I have no doubt you wouldn't.
DH: Contacting him now, I thought we were clear at the family get together
MIL: Sorry no
MIL: No one got that message.
DH: Awesome. Well guess I look like a jackass now.
MIL: If I didn't look at you and say what!!?? Your not going to the wedding!!? Then you didn't talk to me.
DH: No I talked to BIL
MIL: They are very kind and will let you off easy I'm sure
MIL: We were with them last weekend and they were upset because I still had your invite. So they didn't get the message either. I told them you had been gone and promised I'd get it to you as soon as you got back.
DH: That sucks. Can't wait til we can just send a crew to work instead.
MIL: Having family near by is harder then you guys imagined, huh? Relationships are hard work.
MIL: Won't that be nice.
MIL: There will be pictures.
MIL: And work comes first or your family doesn't eat.
I'd like to say that three months ago when I scheduled work on this weekend, she told me she would be unavailable for babysitting on this weekend because she was going to the wedding of her husband's son. They just found out that he had a son from a previous relationship, and have been getting to know him. At the time I told her I knew that she was planning on going to the weedding, and I was already planning to stay with the kids while he went to the event he is working. Also, we weren't invited at the time. We just met the guy like a week before I scheduled the event. Never have we ever told them we were going to the event, and also, we didn't get the invitation until this Tuesday. The wedding is on Sunday.
Next she texted me
MIL: When is the kids first day?
MIL: I'd love pictures.
MIL: Okay then.
I have my own thoughts on this exchange, but I wonder how DWIL will see it? Now where is that translate button?