Its been a while since I posted here. A long while. Most of my BG issues are about my ILs. Mostly SIL, MIL and occasionally GMIL. I believe my first post here was about last deployment 2 years ago. I could be wrong. The jist of that was MIL wanted to come to the sending off for deployment, staying the whole week before deployment. I didnt want that, told DH he told MIL. Im pretty sure there was minimum drama if any at all. Dh decided that the month before deployment is always going to be us and our children (i was pregnant with our first at the time).
Onto now, DH deploys in March. MIL visited over thanksgiving and we went to homestate over Christmas. During one of those visits while we were really busy MIL told us that she is coming to visit before DH deploys in March. Neither of us said anything at the time. She may have mentioned it a few more times but i dont remember. Once we got home and things settled down, I brought it up to DH through email as he was underway. Before he even read my email, he had emailed MIL and told her that he didnt want her here before deployment, we had visted recently enough and he wants the time with his wife and kids only (we just had another LO and we have DSD). He didnt tell me he sent this email. I found out because I got a text message.Then alot more text messages. MIL through a guilt tantrum through text messages to me, and an email tantrum to my DH. I got really offended from her messages and stopped responding. DH had also stopped responding. He told me to ignore her. When he got home I would occasionally ask if he spoke to her. He always said no. And then he did start talking to her, didnt hide it but I was upset. I am upset. They are talking like nothing ever happened. Mil isnt coming still but they are rugsweeping and somehow I am the badguy to the family and MIL is pretty much ignoring my existance. Except to FB stalk me through SIL. I am really bothered by this because once DH deploys im expected to generally update his family on the kids and such. I dont want to be doing this with MIL or SIL really because SIL is two faced and is 100% with her mom. I feel like something needs to be said. Its been a month and I want this delt with before DH deploys in a week and a half.
I just dont know where to start.