I've had it with my Bil who tries to belittle me every chance he gets. We live 25 minutes from him. He's married, has kids, and is successful. He has a big ego and loves to show off his lifestyle. DH is successful, too, but lives simple. I'm a SAHM. BILs wife isn't. He berates me for being a SAHM. DH had to tell him it was a choice we made, so he shouldn't have say in it.
Our kids go to the same school. Since I'm SAHM, and he and his wife work, they asked me if I was willing to pick their kids up the same time as mine, and let them stay at my house until one of them was able to pick the kids up. I had no issue with doing it. So I would pick their kids up, have them at my house, and sometimes have to cook dinner for them because their parents are usually late in picking them up.
BIL works near where we live. DH has to drive in the city for work. Some days I'll be home doing my thing, and BIL would come over. It would either be for a lunch break, or to drop by for no reason. DH and I have a four month old. Besides our four month old, we have a five year old, seven year old, and a nine year old. At times our house can look like a tornado swept through it no matter how often it gets cleaned. I clean the house every day but with kids, it gets unravelled. Whenever BIL comes over, he would make comments about my house. If he sees dishes in the sink, he says something. If he sees toys all over, he says something. If he sees clothes being folded, he says something. He'll tell me I'm lazy, can't maintin a house, and he thinks my house is dirty because I probably sit on my ass watching talk shows and soap operas all day. He'll see me struggling to do things while dealing with my four month old. I've had to tell him leave and go back to work so I could do my work in peace. To act like he's caring, he'll tell me he would play and help with the baby while I try to finish up things. Sometimes, he'll look at my kitchen utensils and tell me he hopes im cleaning them properly, and not giving his children food on dirty stuff. I had to call him a piece of shit for his comments. He apologized saying he's a clean person, and can't stnd untidy houses.
DH has a mini gym in the basement. He uses it than go to a gym. BIL knows of it. So on weekends, BIL would come over and the two of them would be in the basement working out. Weekends I have loads of laundry to do. He'll look at me and say "you be home Monday to Friday and can't get laundry do? I think you need a maid because your home is always untidy." DH had to tell him he needs to stop criticizing me, and if he keeps at it, he and him would be on bad terms.
When we go to their parents for get togethers, I of course dress up. When I do, he makes comments to me. He'll say I need to stop hiding my beautiful self under my old SAHM look. He would say that just because I am a SAHM I shouldn't be looking like an old person. He'll tell me I'm thirty something and not fifty.
Yesterday we were all at their parents for their mothers birthday. With children there, the pool was in use, so of course bathing suits were seen. I was with one of my kids and BIL came up to me. He said that I let my body go since having kids, and I should start working out. He said a makeover would do me justice and be eye candy.
I don't know what's hiis problem. If I'm covered up, he hasbsomethingnto say. If I feel happy to dress up, he has something to say.
There is no history between us per se. He's three years older than his brother. When we were younger, and still do sometimes, we go out on dinner dates together. I mean he and his wife, and me and DH. He talks down to her to because she's gained weight, but I don't get why he's fixated on me belittling me.
Our kids go to the same school. Since I'm SAHM, and he and his wife work, they asked me if I was willing to pick their kids up the same time as mine, and let them stay at my house until one of them was able to pick the kids up. I had no issue with doing it. So I would pick their kids up, have them at my house, and sometimes have to cook dinner for them because their parents are usually late in picking them up.
BIL works near where we live. DH has to drive in the city for work. Some days I'll be home doing my thing, and BIL would come over. It would either be for a lunch break, or to drop by for no reason. DH and I have a four month old. Besides our four month old, we have a five year old, seven year old, and a nine year old. At times our house can look like a tornado swept through it no matter how often it gets cleaned. I clean the house every day but with kids, it gets unravelled. Whenever BIL comes over, he would make comments about my house. If he sees dishes in the sink, he says something. If he sees toys all over, he says something. If he sees clothes being folded, he says something. He'll tell me I'm lazy, can't maintin a house, and he thinks my house is dirty because I probably sit on my ass watching talk shows and soap operas all day. He'll see me struggling to do things while dealing with my four month old. I've had to tell him leave and go back to work so I could do my work in peace. To act like he's caring, he'll tell me he would play and help with the baby while I try to finish up things. Sometimes, he'll look at my kitchen utensils and tell me he hopes im cleaning them properly, and not giving his children food on dirty stuff. I had to call him a piece of shit for his comments. He apologized saying he's a clean person, and can't stnd untidy houses.
DH has a mini gym in the basement. He uses it than go to a gym. BIL knows of it. So on weekends, BIL would come over and the two of them would be in the basement working out. Weekends I have loads of laundry to do. He'll look at me and say "you be home Monday to Friday and can't get laundry do? I think you need a maid because your home is always untidy." DH had to tell him he needs to stop criticizing me, and if he keeps at it, he and him would be on bad terms.
When we go to their parents for get togethers, I of course dress up. When I do, he makes comments to me. He'll say I need to stop hiding my beautiful self under my old SAHM look. He would say that just because I am a SAHM I shouldn't be looking like an old person. He'll tell me I'm thirty something and not fifty.
Yesterday we were all at their parents for their mothers birthday. With children there, the pool was in use, so of course bathing suits were seen. I was with one of my kids and BIL came up to me. He said that I let my body go since having kids, and I should start working out. He said a makeover would do me justice and be eye candy.
I don't know what's hiis problem. If I'm covered up, he hasbsomethingnto say. If I feel happy to dress up, he has something to say.
There is no history between us per se. He's three years older than his brother. When we were younger, and still do sometimes, we go out on dinner dates together. I mean he and his wife, and me and DH. He talks down to her to because she's gained weight, but I don't get why he's fixated on me belittling me.