First time posting here, but I was told I'd get some good advice!
My SO and I have been together on and off for like 3yrs. During an off period, we were both seeing other people. I just so happened to get pregnant after my ex and I broke up and my SO and I got back together. So to put it out there this may or may not be his child. All parties involved are aware. We won't know until after she is here to get the DNA test. Despite that... My SO has mentioned from the beginning that if its his baby then the baby's name has to start with a "T" because all of his siblings and all of their children have names that start with a "T". I've already had a name since practically before I found out and it was confirmed once my pregnancy was that her name would be Lyric Monroe. The middle name is negotiable... But I have my reasons for choosing the name. Everyone loves the name including his mother. The problem is it doesn't start with a "T". To be honest they don't give a fuck what the name is as long as it follows their tradition. There's a lot of meaning behind Lyric, and its far beyond the definition, but also personal reasons. To consider their request I tried to find names with a T and I didn't care for any of them, at least none of the girl names. There were two that I liked, but I wasn't in love with to say the least. Now I spoke with his mother the other night and she had a mouthful to say about it. I've been getting hell from his brothers whenever the topic is brought up around them and they are slightly disrespectful, but SO doesn't check them, in fact says well you need to get used to dealing with my family they are very opinionated. They are beginning to stress me out. Putting pressure on me about killing their family tradition,etc. Their telling me I'm not being considerate at the fact that this decision should be 50/50. I agree to a certain extent. My problem is, I'm supposed to go with a name that I don't care for to appease them. The name I chose they actually like.
I told them as for now, get used to that being her name unless a fucking miracle happens and they find a name that I fall in love with..
I just don't know if I am wrong or if I am supposed to be compromising with their request. I sure as fuck don't like the guilt trips, etc but I also refuse to be forced or bullied into something that I don't want to do.
Sorry for the essay.....
HELP ANY ADVICE? I'm 33w3d and its getting to close to be stressed out about the name.
My SO and I have been together on and off for like 3yrs. During an off period, we were both seeing other people. I just so happened to get pregnant after my ex and I broke up and my SO and I got back together. So to put it out there this may or may not be his child. All parties involved are aware. We won't know until after she is here to get the DNA test. Despite that... My SO has mentioned from the beginning that if its his baby then the baby's name has to start with a "T" because all of his siblings and all of their children have names that start with a "T". I've already had a name since practically before I found out and it was confirmed once my pregnancy was that her name would be Lyric Monroe. The middle name is negotiable... But I have my reasons for choosing the name. Everyone loves the name including his mother. The problem is it doesn't start with a "T". To be honest they don't give a fuck what the name is as long as it follows their tradition. There's a lot of meaning behind Lyric, and its far beyond the definition, but also personal reasons. To consider their request I tried to find names with a T and I didn't care for any of them, at least none of the girl names. There were two that I liked, but I wasn't in love with to say the least. Now I spoke with his mother the other night and she had a mouthful to say about it. I've been getting hell from his brothers whenever the topic is brought up around them and they are slightly disrespectful, but SO doesn't check them, in fact says well you need to get used to dealing with my family they are very opinionated. They are beginning to stress me out. Putting pressure on me about killing their family tradition,etc. Their telling me I'm not being considerate at the fact that this decision should be 50/50. I agree to a certain extent. My problem is, I'm supposed to go with a name that I don't care for to appease them. The name I chose they actually like.
I told them as for now, get used to that being her name unless a fucking miracle happens and they find a name that I fall in love with..
I just don't know if I am wrong or if I am supposed to be compromising with their request. I sure as fuck don't like the guilt trips, etc but I also refuse to be forced or bullied into something that I don't want to do.
Sorry for the essay.....
HELP ANY ADVICE? I'm 33w3d and its getting to close to be stressed out about the name.