I am 8 and a half months pregnant with a little boy and i have a 14 month old DD.
My mother decided to plan a trip to AZ out of nowhere for the end of October, early November, for three weeks and she just assumed i was going to watch her two dogs, she has a small dog and large dog; both dogs piss all over the floor everyday.
I told her there was no way in hell i was watching her dogs while i have a newborn and a 14 month old (plus i have to have major surgery shortly after my DS is born, a subtotal collectomy, due to injuries i sustained while birthing my DD.) and it was completely ridiculous of her to assume i would watch her dogs, she got angry, said i am being selfish and "I WATCHED YOUR DOG FOR YOU!" (Three years ago, for four days!) - That was the first conversation a few days ago.
She brought it up again today (these aren't exact words, but close enough)
Mother: You are going to watch the dogs, you have no choice.
Me: You drop the dogs off at my house and they will be going to the pound or on Craigslist.
Mother: You are being so selfish! There is no reason you can't watch them! YOU WILL NOT GET RID OF THEM!
Me: I am going to have a newborn and a one year old for one, and i am not cleaning up dog piss while i have two kids to take care of!
Mother: Why not? There is no reason for you to say no and its not hard to pick up after the dogs! You are ruining everything!
Me: I am NOT watching them, you need to find someone else to do it.
Basically it went on and on with her demanding i watch them, saying i have no choice and she is dropping them off anyway, im selfish and a brat, etc.. until i had enough and hung up.
Who the hell does she think she is? How do i handle this situation and what do i say to her when she brings this up again? Am i at all wrong or is she friggin crazy?
Sorry if this is all over the place, i am so angry and completely offended that she thinks she can demand i watch her nasty dogs.
Short BG: We have never had a good relationship; she is demanding, entilted, a boundary stomper (which i dont allow and it causes arguments) and thinks i should do whatever she says when she says. She has not been allowed around my DD in over a month as she has been disrespectful to my DH and i and refuses to respect boundaries.
My mother decided to plan a trip to AZ out of nowhere for the end of October, early November, for three weeks and she just assumed i was going to watch her two dogs, she has a small dog and large dog; both dogs piss all over the floor everyday.
I told her there was no way in hell i was watching her dogs while i have a newborn and a 14 month old (plus i have to have major surgery shortly after my DS is born, a subtotal collectomy, due to injuries i sustained while birthing my DD.) and it was completely ridiculous of her to assume i would watch her dogs, she got angry, said i am being selfish and "I WATCHED YOUR DOG FOR YOU!" (Three years ago, for four days!) - That was the first conversation a few days ago.
She brought it up again today (these aren't exact words, but close enough)
Mother: You are going to watch the dogs, you have no choice.
Me: You drop the dogs off at my house and they will be going to the pound or on Craigslist.
Mother: You are being so selfish! There is no reason you can't watch them! YOU WILL NOT GET RID OF THEM!
Me: I am going to have a newborn and a one year old for one, and i am not cleaning up dog piss while i have two kids to take care of!
Mother: Why not? There is no reason for you to say no and its not hard to pick up after the dogs! You are ruining everything!
Me: I am NOT watching them, you need to find someone else to do it.
Basically it went on and on with her demanding i watch them, saying i have no choice and she is dropping them off anyway, im selfish and a brat, etc.. until i had enough and hung up.
Who the hell does she think she is? How do i handle this situation and what do i say to her when she brings this up again? Am i at all wrong or is she friggin crazy?
Sorry if this is all over the place, i am so angry and completely offended that she thinks she can demand i watch her nasty dogs.
Short BG: We have never had a good relationship; she is demanding, entilted, a boundary stomper (which i dont allow and it causes arguments) and thinks i should do whatever she says when she says. She has not been allowed around my DD in over a month as she has been disrespectful to my DH and i and refuses to respect boundaries.