Gone Anon.
I am a FTM and deliver tomorrow. Well, being induced. Me and Hubby just celebrated our 1 year anniversary and have been together 8 years. He is amazing.
When we discussed my birthing plan, after lurking on DWIL for almost two years now, we laid down firm boundaries.
My problem is MIL. Hubby told her about a month ago that we are not excepting visitors until I am well and ready and we have bonded with new baby. MIL flipped her lid. We are "stealing her experience as a grandparent, we are selfish, we are ruining this speacial time for her", etc...
The past few weeks she has been texting DH (I blocked her) saying that "she will be at the hospital, in the parking lot, waiting for THAT text or phone call because she WILL be the first person to hold LO". She will "know if we don't text her because she will recognize people coming and going and if they are there for us and LO"
We don't know what to do!!
Obviously we aren't going to text her when baby is here or any details but what do we do if she tries to walk in with my mom or sister or my father? (My parents are divorced, but I plan on letting them both know when LO arrives)
We are so stressed out and all I can focus on is MIL trying to ruin this and make it all about her.
I am sorry if this is all over the place, I am really scared about giving birth and how everything will go and don't know what to do. How would you handle this situation??
I am a FTM and deliver tomorrow. Well, being induced. Me and Hubby just celebrated our 1 year anniversary and have been together 8 years. He is amazing.
When we discussed my birthing plan, after lurking on DWIL for almost two years now, we laid down firm boundaries.
My problem is MIL. Hubby told her about a month ago that we are not excepting visitors until I am well and ready and we have bonded with new baby. MIL flipped her lid. We are "stealing her experience as a grandparent, we are selfish, we are ruining this speacial time for her", etc...
The past few weeks she has been texting DH (I blocked her) saying that "she will be at the hospital, in the parking lot, waiting for THAT text or phone call because she WILL be the first person to hold LO". She will "know if we don't text her because she will recognize people coming and going and if they are there for us and LO"
We don't know what to do!!
Obviously we aren't going to text her when baby is here or any details but what do we do if she tries to walk in with my mom or sister or my father? (My parents are divorced, but I plan on letting them both know when LO arrives)
We are so stressed out and all I can focus on is MIL trying to ruin this and make it all about her.
I am sorry if this is all over the place, I am really scared about giving birth and how everything will go and don't know what to do. How would you handle this situation??