I hate my BIL. He is an all around asshole, but he treats my SO like trash (they are brothers--BIL for simplicity sake).
The final straw was on my SO's birthday, BIL ended up wasted, and my SO drove home from the bar. Him, friend, my sister, BIL and BILs gf were suppose to come for dinner, I spent all day cooking and preparing everything. BILs gf bails because BIL is so drunk, she knows she won't be able to put up with him.
We proceed to have dinner. Throughout dinner, BIL is rude, loud, racist and just all around fucking annoying. Not to mention bragging about being so drunk the other weekend, he half-passed out at the wheel. I have a family member that was killed by a drunk driver.
FTR, I would have kicked him out sooner, but I knew he would drive, so we drove him after dinner.
This was a final straw for me. I told my SO that I don't want to be around BIL anymore and he is in for a rude awakening if he thinks he is going to have some kind of relationship with LO due in March.
My SO has a huge unicorn for his brother. SO does not know who his father is, and BIL and his mom are the only blood he knows...so faaaamily.
SO says he respects my decision to not want to be around him, but today when his brother had to pick something, I said, "let me know when he is gone" and I get, "don't be like that".
I don't know how to get through to him that I don't want to be around poison, and that applies to LO. I have told him he can have whatever kind of relationship he wants, but I am out.
He thinks I cut people off too easily--I have a CO sister and aunt.
I know I cannot dictate his relationship with BIL, but how to I make him understand?
The final straw was on my SO's birthday, BIL ended up wasted, and my SO drove home from the bar. Him, friend, my sister, BIL and BILs gf were suppose to come for dinner, I spent all day cooking and preparing everything. BILs gf bails because BIL is so drunk, she knows she won't be able to put up with him.
We proceed to have dinner. Throughout dinner, BIL is rude, loud, racist and just all around fucking annoying. Not to mention bragging about being so drunk the other weekend, he half-passed out at the wheel. I have a family member that was killed by a drunk driver.
FTR, I would have kicked him out sooner, but I knew he would drive, so we drove him after dinner.
This was a final straw for me. I told my SO that I don't want to be around BIL anymore and he is in for a rude awakening if he thinks he is going to have some kind of relationship with LO due in March.
My SO has a huge unicorn for his brother. SO does not know who his father is, and BIL and his mom are the only blood he knows...so faaaamily.
SO says he respects my decision to not want to be around him, but today when his brother had to pick something, I said, "let me know when he is gone" and I get, "don't be like that".
I don't know how to get through to him that I don't want to be around poison, and that applies to LO. I have told him he can have whatever kind of relationship he wants, but I am out.
He thinks I cut people off too easily--I have a CO sister and aunt.
I know I cannot dictate his relationship with BIL, but how to I make him understand?