BG:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a55934203/could_really_use_advice_pls._trigger.?cpg=2
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a56309686/my_foo_is_a_mess._ud_pg_3?cpg=4
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a54224041/trapping_me_into_a_corner._update_pg_2_pg_3._merry_christmas_update_pg_6
TL;DR: Brother who was 8 molested me when I was 6. I never told anyone in my family but can't do it anymore. Want to CO but can't make myself do it in person, rather do it in a letter.
So, I went to therapy yesterday. It was harder for me than I thought it would be but ultimately I feel better that someone else confirmed my decision to CO is not crazy. She thinks I have PTSD.
She suggested telling my sister first, since I think she would be most understanding. I am trying to summon the courage to do that since I know it will be something thats difficult to do in person.
I have started taking steps to CO my brother. DH and I defriended him on FB- why we hadn't done that sooner I don't know. I have started drafting an email to my parents about why I'm CO my brother and that they are not to push the issue. I need help with this...I don't know if it's clear enough. Suggestions? Also, should I write a letter to my brother to let him know not to contact me? Keep in mind this is out of the blue for all of them.
Here is what I have so far:
Mom & Dad,
This is something that is extremely difficult for me to talk about. So, this is the path that is easiest for me, I do not want to discuss it in person. So to the point.
When I was 6, {Brother} sexually abused me. I was threatened not to tell, so I didn't. As I got older, I tried to ignore it for fear of ruining the family. However, this is not something I can continue to do. It has caused me issues that I will likely have for the rest of my life, and being around him has always been difficult for me. My family and I will no longer have contact with {Brother}, in any way, shape, or form.
I want to make it clear that my intention is not to make his life difficult, since he was also a child when it happened. I DO NOT expect anyone to choose a relationship between him or I. You can have both, they just need to be seperate. I do not want this to impact the relationship we have with you guys or {Sister}.
Please be respectful of this boundary. I know this is a big thing to drop on you in an email, but this is just not something I could bring myself to talk about directly with you.
Love you,
OP