Background:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a43319497/my_mom_concerned_about_mil_being_on_to_update_email_from_my_mother_pg_17?cpg=2
So things have been going pretty well with my mom since this last post. There were a few things here and there that bugged me like if I asked her to not do something through text she simply wouldn't respond for a few days, then not acknowledge my request. Well my parents have offered a gift to my family that would be life changing and is really hard to turn down. Since learning of the gift my mother has been acting...strange? I texted her on three different occasions and she didn't respond. Last time I went to visit her she gave me a hard time about my parenting almost the entire visit. So today I called her to ask what was up. She said "they are afraid to say anything to me because it might piss me off and I won't talk to them again" I've not gotten this impression from any other family members so I'm not sure why she said "they". She also brought up issues with my mil even though it's water under the bridge at this point, I really don't mind putting mil in her place as she's been really respectful lately, but my mother said "wendy, when you treat others poorly it reflects badly on us and I feel like we failed as parents. You'll understand in 20 years when your kids are grown up". my jaw dropped. I can't believe she's still hung up on it and I'm wondering if we should decline the gift (as hard as that would be) because it seems like she's already using it as leverage to do whatever the hell it is shes doing. Later in the conversation she said she wanted to give the gift because I'm a "Good kid" wtf? I'm just so confused and I need some help sorting all this out.
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a43319497/my_mom_concerned_about_mil_being_on_to_update_email_from_my_mother_pg_17?cpg=2
So things have been going pretty well with my mom since this last post. There were a few things here and there that bugged me like if I asked her to not do something through text she simply wouldn't respond for a few days, then not acknowledge my request. Well my parents have offered a gift to my family that would be life changing and is really hard to turn down. Since learning of the gift my mother has been acting...strange? I texted her on three different occasions and she didn't respond. Last time I went to visit her she gave me a hard time about my parenting almost the entire visit. So today I called her to ask what was up. She said "they are afraid to say anything to me because it might piss me off and I won't talk to them again" I've not gotten this impression from any other family members so I'm not sure why she said "they". She also brought up issues with my mil even though it's water under the bridge at this point, I really don't mind putting mil in her place as she's been really respectful lately, but my mother said "wendy, when you treat others poorly it reflects badly on us and I feel like we failed as parents. You'll understand in 20 years when your kids are grown up". my jaw dropped. I can't believe she's still hung up on it and I'm wondering if we should decline the gift (as hard as that would be) because it seems like she's already using it as leverage to do whatever the hell it is shes doing. Later in the conversation she said she wanted to give the gift because I'm a "Good kid" wtf? I'm just so confused and I need some help sorting all this out.