Hi ladies.
I have just fallen pregnant and am 6 weeks pregnant today. Yay.
But I think there is going to be some big problems with my partners grandma, My FGMIL.
So this is what the deal is, When we where first together me and my partner where 19 and his grandma kept asking to make her a grandma ( i know she would be a great grandma to our child but she insists she is grandma) she said its never to young.
Never mind that we had just come out of homelessness and didnt have work or stable accommodation .
So fast forward to 6 months before today when we told her we want to have a baby. She asked on a couple of different occasions if she could be in the room when the baby was born (at this point im not pregnant just thinking about it) I bean dipped her all of about three times she asked.
Now fast forward again to 1 week ago when my partner called her and told her the news. She said she had $2500 to spend so look out. Ummmmm Shit.....
Then a couple of days after we went over for a visit and low and behold she proceeds to tell us that we are having a girl after I tell her I feel like im having a boy. Not that I care if its a boy or a girl as long as its healthy. I tell her again i think boy and she kind of forcefully proclaimed that is a girl with a bitter look on her face (if you can understand what i mean, its hard to explain) as if She is right and I am being rude by saying I feel its a boy.
Later on while we where talking wait for it........... She proceeds to refer to it as her babbyyyyy, sort of under her breath but enough that i hear clearly, My partner was busy fixing her computer and didnt hear, I ignored her i felt horrified because I know what that means because of the stories I have read here.
The most recent thing is last night she messaged my partner (fiance) and asked how we where and that she was leaving for her over seas trip in a week or so (we dont care she thinks we are interested in her personal life.)
My partner wrote back a funny message to her saying we are good and that his girlfriend hasnt replaced him with a pillow yet (pregnancy reference)
She wrote back correcting him that i was his fiance and my partner was annoyed and said out load "what ever dickhead she is my girlfriend to me and you dont get to tell me how I feel." I laughed and was like "I already know who that message was from dont I?"
Trigger:
She has had 2 late miscarriage and one of her babies died after about six months after birth so i think this problem stems deeper than petty bitchy-ness. i think there is a bit of crazy past unresolved issues involved.
She is always bringing this thing up, she even got me to read this whole thing she wrote about it, it was really fucked up and intence, i interpreted it as attention seeking.
End trigger
We have to have her arorund for a 2 more months because of a family wedding, but we are working on a killer plan for dealinng with this crazy after.
So thats where we are at this point.
Can you please give me a little direction in this situation.
What should I be expecting from this lady when MY baby is born and how do I proceed to deal with this person.
I think I might be headed for a huge baby rabies storm. Any suggestions please?
Eddited for lotts or errors.