My SIL (my husband's brother's wife) is a user. She expects (and provides absolutely no financial compensation) family to look after their large dog while she and her husband travel for work, which is often. I did it once and never again. When another family member was dog-sitting, she conveniently "forgot" to bring dog food so the other family member was forced to purchase it themselves and never was paid back. Not my circus though...
On to my problem. She expects that my husband will do favours for her but yet she never reciprocates. She forgot an item she needed at home for work and she calls my husband to go fetch it for her. He does this. She needs a drive to a work night out and wants to drink...he takes her. I understand her husband is often unavailable due to his own work but she could easily take a taxi. I don't actually have much of a problem with him doing favours for family but, the issue for me is, if he needs a favour, she is completely unwilling to reciprocate. He had a party to attend recently and asked if she would mind driving him as she was also going, our home was on her way and I was too ill to attend (normally I'm the designated driver). She declined because her car was "too full" with the couple of fruit trays she was taking. This isn't an isolated incident- as soon as something is requested of her, she is suddenly too busy. Recently we (SIL/BIL and my husband and I) had been asked to look after the cats of a family member that had been out of town. The same family member who often looks after their dog. We did 90 percent (at least) of the pet care, despite the fact we live a lot further away from the home of the cats. Whenever we asked them to do their share, it was met with resistance and "but we are busy". As if I'm not Bitches.
Anyway, after that, I told husband we are done doing favours for them. He agreed. Well lo and behold, today SIL needs something else. Husband agreed to drive out of our way to do this for her which means having to leave earlier than we intended to get to our planned Father's Day celebration. At first I didn't say much. Then I finally snapped and said I'm tired of having to cater to her with no reciprocation and said I won't get ready early to accommodate her. He said "fine, then I will just go myself and come back to get you after". So his solution was to drive an extra 60 km round trip to accommodate this leech? I'm pissed. And currently sitting in my living room stewing and silently protesting by not showering or getting ready.
I know this isn't that big of a deal compared to a lot of what we see on here but it's aggravating me and I suppose this was my final straw.
(And just, for the record, in case anyone thought this...their relationship isn't inappropriate at all. They kind of all grew up together and he thinks of her as a sister. This isn't anything untoward, just annoying as hell).
Thanks very much for anyone who read this very angry small novel.
On to my problem. She expects that my husband will do favours for her but yet she never reciprocates. She forgot an item she needed at home for work and she calls my husband to go fetch it for her. He does this. She needs a drive to a work night out and wants to drink...he takes her. I understand her husband is often unavailable due to his own work but she could easily take a taxi. I don't actually have much of a problem with him doing favours for family but, the issue for me is, if he needs a favour, she is completely unwilling to reciprocate. He had a party to attend recently and asked if she would mind driving him as she was also going, our home was on her way and I was too ill to attend (normally I'm the designated driver). She declined because her car was "too full" with the couple of fruit trays she was taking. This isn't an isolated incident- as soon as something is requested of her, she is suddenly too busy. Recently we (SIL/BIL and my husband and I) had been asked to look after the cats of a family member that had been out of town. The same family member who often looks after their dog. We did 90 percent (at least) of the pet care, despite the fact we live a lot further away from the home of the cats. Whenever we asked them to do their share, it was met with resistance and "but we are busy". As if I'm not Bitches.
Anyway, after that, I told husband we are done doing favours for them. He agreed. Well lo and behold, today SIL needs something else. Husband agreed to drive out of our way to do this for her which means having to leave earlier than we intended to get to our planned Father's Day celebration. At first I didn't say much. Then I finally snapped and said I'm tired of having to cater to her with no reciprocation and said I won't get ready early to accommodate her. He said "fine, then I will just go myself and come back to get you after". So his solution was to drive an extra 60 km round trip to accommodate this leech? I'm pissed. And currently sitting in my living room stewing and silently protesting by not showering or getting ready.
I know this isn't that big of a deal compared to a lot of what we see on here but it's aggravating me and I suppose this was my final straw.
(And just, for the record, in case anyone thought this...their relationship isn't inappropriate at all. They kind of all grew up together and he thinks of her as a sister. This isn't anything untoward, just annoying as hell).
Thanks very much for anyone who read this very angry small novel.
