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Not much background MIL, is my BEC and since birth of my surprise baby in August 2013, things have gotten even worse. We were one and done with the 2003 baby due to infertility, so she is the only baby on that side of the family since then, so baby rabies has been in full effect.
I am pretty good at shooting down anything I do not want to do or allow my girls to do. My youngest has never stayed with anyone and we just recently allowed her to stay with a sitter while I ran errands due to the heat, 102 this week and climbing . I just don't feel the need to have others watch my children when not necessary.
Now the issue at hand, I am not sure how to reply without being mean, because well I am over it. Important note here MIL B day is 8/1, my lo is 8/3. My MIL sent my husband a text wanting to make plans for her Birthday this coming up Sunday, we agreed set a time then things were changed to Saturday at noon. Everyone knows I have school and class on Saturdays until 2pm. MIL stated she will wait for me to get off before they leave for lunch. In the past I was invited to lunch and they ate without me after setting up times, so I am hesitant to plan anything. We went ahead and agreed.
Next text was my MIL asking if she could do cake for my lo birthday on Saturday. My husband asked me I said no, we were not doing cake twice for a 2 yr old. So his reply was " We prefer to do the cake for her Birthday ourselves". Dead silence from her, no response from past behavior I know she is pouting and thinks she is hurting us by not responding. Any time I say no to something we get the silent treatment.
I vote we don't go on Saturday and say to heck with her Birthday plans because she is going to make it all about the lo birthday and since I am the parent I think I should be handling anything to do with it.
She has already told my husband she bought the lo a better present then the one he asked for. He suggested a $30 foam folding toddler couch (easy clean up) when pushed for ideas. Instead she bought the one from TRU that was $100 and had a storage bench underneath.
So what do I do from here, for the first time I am at a loss as to how to handle her.