I'm sorry, I'm not sure how to add previous posts in a link on her from my phone.. So I'll keep the background as short as possible.
MIL is an alcoholic and drug addict. We gave her 5 months of my pregnancy to get some help (I know you don't get better in that time, I just wanted progress) well her and GMIL claimed she was sober the entire time even though we suspected otherwise. Our first visit was when lo was 10 days old, and immediately as we walked in the door she went off. We wanted to leave but felt bad for GMIL since she made dinner and really wanted to see lo. I was in the back room with the door closed whil DH went to talk to GMIL. As soon as he left the room she came flying back getting in my face and freaking out on me. My lo was sleeping in his car seat right next to me... As soon as DH heard he came flying back and tried to get me to leave with lo but she was blocking the door. DH pretty much picked her up and moved her from the door and she choked him. We got to the car and left.
3 months later DH was wanting to go talk to Mil in person because on the phone she seemed different. She said she was clean and volunteering at church, finished her AA stuff and her relationship with GMIL was getting better. I told DH that I wanted to go to because I was afraid of him becoming a DUH and not telling me something. We couldn't find a babysitter so we just took lo but kept him in his car seat with the cover on the whole time. (I know it was a bad decision on my part) But before going down MIL and I texted a few times and I told her what the first few visits would be like. I told her lo would either be in his car seat or in my arms. She agreed that she wouldn't hold him for a few more months. But of course once we get there everything is different.. As soon as we walked in the door GMIL said "where's that baby at??" DH just explained to her to sit down as this was not a visit for lo but to talk and make a plan. From the beginning MIL was slurring her words and her eyes couldn't focus. I knew she wasn't right, she claimed she was just tired. But DH continued to talk. She said she would do ANYTHING to prove that she is on a better path and she is capable of seeing lo (she even mentioned taking drug and alcohol tests) We explained to her that's exactly what we wanted. We wanted her to pass 3 random drug tests before holding lo. Immediately she gets defensive and so did GMIL. I thought it was a good solution because that would give us physical proof instead of just their word. But obviously they had something to hide. GMIL is a HUGE enabler. MIL starts verbally attacking me and my family and getting real mean. DH said lets go so I picked lo up got in the car and locked the doors. As I was doing that MIL comes out trying to fight me. When DH in the car MIL and GMIL try forcing his door open and MIL just stood at the driveway and stared psychologically as we went down the driveway.
It didn't stop there! The next day I woke up to some mean texts (which I will include in comments) and she threatened CPS and gpr.
Now I am so happy to say she is permanently cut off and DH has officially lost his unicorn! If someone threatens to take my child away from me, they're dead to me. After the messages were sent, we went to the police station and filed a harassment charge. We also got a no contact order. If she contacts us in any way again I can take it to the police and she'll be charged and I can then get a restraining order. We have not had any problems since, but it's only been a month and holidays are coming up so I'm standing guard. We are willing to have contact with GMIL in a few months as song as she gets that her visits will be WITHOUT MIL and realizes that it's not up for debate. The rest of his family caught with us at first but now they actually told us to cut all contact with her and never let her in our lives again. Even you ladies told me before to just give it a few months and maybe try again, but now she blew it forever! I'm I'm actually really relieved that she did mess up because I don't have to deal with the situation anymore. It's crazy how much DWIL support can really help. Thanks ladies![:)]( ":)")
MIL is an alcoholic and drug addict. We gave her 5 months of my pregnancy to get some help (I know you don't get better in that time, I just wanted progress) well her and GMIL claimed she was sober the entire time even though we suspected otherwise. Our first visit was when lo was 10 days old, and immediately as we walked in the door she went off. We wanted to leave but felt bad for GMIL since she made dinner and really wanted to see lo. I was in the back room with the door closed whil DH went to talk to GMIL. As soon as he left the room she came flying back getting in my face and freaking out on me. My lo was sleeping in his car seat right next to me... As soon as DH heard he came flying back and tried to get me to leave with lo but she was blocking the door. DH pretty much picked her up and moved her from the door and she choked him. We got to the car and left.
3 months later DH was wanting to go talk to Mil in person because on the phone she seemed different. She said she was clean and volunteering at church, finished her AA stuff and her relationship with GMIL was getting better. I told DH that I wanted to go to because I was afraid of him becoming a DUH and not telling me something. We couldn't find a babysitter so we just took lo but kept him in his car seat with the cover on the whole time. (I know it was a bad decision on my part) But before going down MIL and I texted a few times and I told her what the first few visits would be like. I told her lo would either be in his car seat or in my arms. She agreed that she wouldn't hold him for a few more months. But of course once we get there everything is different.. As soon as we walked in the door GMIL said "where's that baby at??" DH just explained to her to sit down as this was not a visit for lo but to talk and make a plan. From the beginning MIL was slurring her words and her eyes couldn't focus. I knew she wasn't right, she claimed she was just tired. But DH continued to talk. She said she would do ANYTHING to prove that she is on a better path and she is capable of seeing lo (she even mentioned taking drug and alcohol tests) We explained to her that's exactly what we wanted. We wanted her to pass 3 random drug tests before holding lo. Immediately she gets defensive and so did GMIL. I thought it was a good solution because that would give us physical proof instead of just their word. But obviously they had something to hide. GMIL is a HUGE enabler. MIL starts verbally attacking me and my family and getting real mean. DH said lets go so I picked lo up got in the car and locked the doors. As I was doing that MIL comes out trying to fight me. When DH in the car MIL and GMIL try forcing his door open and MIL just stood at the driveway and stared psychologically as we went down the driveway.
It didn't stop there! The next day I woke up to some mean texts (which I will include in comments) and she threatened CPS and gpr.
Now I am so happy to say she is permanently cut off and DH has officially lost his unicorn! If someone threatens to take my child away from me, they're dead to me. After the messages were sent, we went to the police station and filed a harassment charge. We also got a no contact order. If she contacts us in any way again I can take it to the police and she'll be charged and I can then get a restraining order. We have not had any problems since, but it's only been a month and holidays are coming up so I'm standing guard. We are willing to have contact with GMIL in a few months as song as she gets that her visits will be WITHOUT MIL and realizes that it's not up for debate. The rest of his family caught with us at first but now they actually told us to cut all contact with her and never let her in our lives again. Even you ladies told me before to just give it a few months and maybe try again, but now she blew it forever! I'm I'm actually really relieved that she did mess up because I don't have to deal with the situation anymore. It's crazy how much DWIL support can really help. Thanks ladies
