I posted recently about the Thanksgiving drama with my brother and SIL (how my brother invited my SIL family to my Thanksgiving and because I said no SIL got mad)
Anyways, I also invited my mom who politely decline and explained that it was her boyfriend's birthday that day and he wanted to spend it alone. She was kind of sad that her bf didn't want to do thanksgiving with me but I told her I completely understand (and I do). I have mentioned in the past how her bf looks uncomfortable when I go to her house. He seems to have no patience for my 2 children and he usually just go to the bedroom and leaves my mom alone. He acts jealous when my mom visits me (he calls her 10x asks her what time she'll leave, etc). I specifically asked my mom to not force her bf to come over my house on Thanksgiving if he didn't want to.
On Thanksgiving day, my mom texted asking me if "they" could come over my house and if I needed anything she will bring it. I told her that we already talked about this and I didn't want things to be uncomfortable. She kept pushing to come over and said that her bf realized that everything will be close on Thanksgiving so he was willing to come to my house. I told her I didn't want to be his last option and that I already asked her not to force him to come to my house. She insisted it wasn't like that.
I didn't reply to her texts after that and she didn't show up in my house but she hasn't talked to me then. She usually calls me or texts me every other day but it's been 5 days since I have heard from her.
She is posting weird quotes on Facebook that I refused to believe are directed to me (but most likely are).
Things like "karma works both ways", "we can't show love when we are selfish", "our ego can destroy relationships".
I don't thing I did anything wrong here. She was the one that refused my invite first and clearly told me that her bf didn't want to do thanksgiving in my house because it was his birthday. She told me that he wanted to be alone in peace that day. I know she really wanted to spend Thanksgiving with me but I shouldn't have to put up with a guest that doesn't want to be in my house.
Was I wrong not have her and her bf over?
Should I ignore my mom until she gets over it? Do I confront her?
Thanks in advance!
Anyways, I also invited my mom who politely decline and explained that it was her boyfriend's birthday that day and he wanted to spend it alone. She was kind of sad that her bf didn't want to do thanksgiving with me but I told her I completely understand (and I do). I have mentioned in the past how her bf looks uncomfortable when I go to her house. He seems to have no patience for my 2 children and he usually just go to the bedroom and leaves my mom alone. He acts jealous when my mom visits me (he calls her 10x asks her what time she'll leave, etc). I specifically asked my mom to not force her bf to come over my house on Thanksgiving if he didn't want to.
On Thanksgiving day, my mom texted asking me if "they" could come over my house and if I needed anything she will bring it. I told her that we already talked about this and I didn't want things to be uncomfortable. She kept pushing to come over and said that her bf realized that everything will be close on Thanksgiving so he was willing to come to my house. I told her I didn't want to be his last option and that I already asked her not to force him to come to my house. She insisted it wasn't like that.
I didn't reply to her texts after that and she didn't show up in my house but she hasn't talked to me then. She usually calls me or texts me every other day but it's been 5 days since I have heard from her.
She is posting weird quotes on Facebook that I refused to believe are directed to me (but most likely are).
Things like "karma works both ways", "we can't show love when we are selfish", "our ego can destroy relationships".
I don't thing I did anything wrong here. She was the one that refused my invite first and clearly told me that her bf didn't want to do thanksgiving in my house because it was his birthday. She told me that he wanted to be alone in peace that day. I know she really wanted to spend Thanksgiving with me but I shouldn't have to put up with a guest that doesn't want to be in my house.
Was I wrong not have her and her bf over?
Should I ignore my mom until she gets over it? Do I confront her?
Thanks in advance!