I have minor bg here but can't find link on mobile. Moo called lo "my baby" we argued repeatedly. Issue seems to be solved.
Current situation: foo are my BEC. Verbally abusive, one physical incident with me many years ago. They are better now or lo would be no where near them. We rarely visit and when we do we stay with in laws who are overall amazing and have limited visit time with foo. I'm here for my sisters graduation, dh couldn't get off work, which is why I'm staying with foo. We live in a different state.
I'm in therapy for many things and it's helped me realize some of the simple things my moo does, like giving lo a holiday necklace that's a potential chocking hazard, makes me flip, but when MIL gives lo same type of necklace, my reaction is ok let's watch her and if she puts it in her mouth we need to take it away.
I've been trying to not let the BEC get to me, but today my dad made a joke about GRP. I shut it down so fast my head spun. I told him if he ever uttered anything remotely like that, joke or not, it would be the last he and my mom ever saw or heard of me and lo.
He hasn't said anything since and I am 100% sure it was just a shitty joke. My dad is basically Milton from office space. But I am fuming still. And my mom keeps calling herself a fucking glamma. I cringe every time.
So DWIL, thoughts? Am I letting the BEC get to me? We leave in 3 days and won't see foo for at least a year.
Current situation: foo are my BEC. Verbally abusive, one physical incident with me many years ago. They are better now or lo would be no where near them. We rarely visit and when we do we stay with in laws who are overall amazing and have limited visit time with foo. I'm here for my sisters graduation, dh couldn't get off work, which is why I'm staying with foo. We live in a different state.
I'm in therapy for many things and it's helped me realize some of the simple things my moo does, like giving lo a holiday necklace that's a potential chocking hazard, makes me flip, but when MIL gives lo same type of necklace, my reaction is ok let's watch her and if she puts it in her mouth we need to take it away.
I've been trying to not let the BEC get to me, but today my dad made a joke about GRP. I shut it down so fast my head spun. I told him if he ever uttered anything remotely like that, joke or not, it would be the last he and my mom ever saw or heard of me and lo.
He hasn't said anything since and I am 100% sure it was just a shitty joke. My dad is basically Milton from office space. But I am fuming still. And my mom keeps calling herself a fucking glamma. I cringe every time.
So DWIL, thoughts? Am I letting the BEC get to me? We leave in 3 days and won't see foo for at least a year.