I have been reading dwil nation for a while now. I went anon.
I really would appreciate some suggestions and outside perspectives on how to improve my situation.
Without going into too many details..I don't like my LOs pictures on debil. Sil posted one so I asked her to remove it. She challenged me on the topic and did not remove it. DH then told her to remove it and dealt with the situation. She had a massive tantrum that went like this:
DH: can you take the picture down DW asked you to take down.
SIL: lol.....omg wow
DH: stop being a fool. She asked you nicely. It bugs her. Wow is right that you can't respect someone's wishes.
SIL: it's fucking ridiculous..you guys are "R word"
SIL: whatever I just did it
SIL: hahahaha....it's pathetic
SIL: I asked a lot of people about it and they think it's fucked and her issue
Sil: whatever
DH: what's pathetic is you no longer being around LOs
SIL: I did it...only because I want to see LOs still
SIL: ya, that's also ridiculous for you guys to threaten I can't see LOs or use them against me
SIL: this is fucking stupid...I don't have time for this jealous insecurity bullshit
DH: well when someone asks you to do something that bugs them please listen.
SIL: it's fucking done..be sure to tell her
Sil: hahaha...she's fucking jealous...and that's so dumb
Sil: whatever, all I care about is seeing LOs
SiL: this is the second time she's created drama over a fucking picture
SIL: and be sure to tell her I'll never take another picture of LOs..it's going to be hard...but whatever she wants..she's the boss apparently
SIL: and actually she didn't ask nicely..it was more like do do it if you want our relationship to be successful.
SIL: she should stop being so jealous it's not my problem
Anyways She removed picture I deleted and blocked her from debil. DH tells me she had a tantrum but wouldn't tell me all of the details of the messages when I asked. He just said let it go and move on and you and LOs don't need to see her in between holidays. We agreed holidays we would still go around as she's not always at them and we didn't want to miss out with the rest of family.
DH did inform me she thinks I'm withholding LOs as punishment. I was furious and informed her we will be taking a break from her because her behaviour is out of line. She ignores my communication to her and that is fine. She then starts texting DH again:
Sil: I can't believe you told DW what I said
SIL: you guys are absolutely ridiculous, pathetic and downright awful
SIL: I can't believe your DW gave me. Consequence I'm not a fucking child and didn't do anything wrong.
SIL: guess I have nephews I will never see because there parents can't grow the fuck up and stop being jealous and petty
DH never told me she continued to text him. I looked at his phone and had to discover these texts myself. I know it's wrong but I needed to know the facts for myself. I'm so angry and feel betrayed. He threw me under the bus I feel like and barley stood up for me. I confront him about the texts. He was angry I looked at his phone obviously and that I let things bother me like this and said that's why he didn't tell me because I let things bother me too much. I told him myself and LOs are off the table from now on and I'm feeling so hurt by her actions that I don't even think we should go around on holidays to mils when she's there. He lost his mind of course and thinks that his sister isn't abusive in anyway and she's not going to do any harm to LOs and thinks I'm over reacting. I feel like she has zero respect for me and I'm worried about parental alienation and her undermining my parenting. My children are small and would not yet understand but they will.
DH is now saying since we can't see his family that we will not be seeing mine. I realize this is actually irrational because what do they have to do with a the way his sister acts. Nothing.
The conversation went no where and I need someone to help me better explain myself to DH. For science sil is in her early 30s. And I think her reaction was outrageous.
I really would appreciate some suggestions and outside perspectives on how to improve my situation.
Without going into too many details..I don't like my LOs pictures on debil. Sil posted one so I asked her to remove it. She challenged me on the topic and did not remove it. DH then told her to remove it and dealt with the situation. She had a massive tantrum that went like this:
DH: can you take the picture down DW asked you to take down.
SIL: lol.....omg wow
DH: stop being a fool. She asked you nicely. It bugs her. Wow is right that you can't respect someone's wishes.
SIL: it's fucking ridiculous..you guys are "R word"
SIL: whatever I just did it
SIL: hahahaha....it's pathetic
SIL: I asked a lot of people about it and they think it's fucked and her issue
Sil: whatever
DH: what's pathetic is you no longer being around LOs
SIL: I did it...only because I want to see LOs still
SIL: ya, that's also ridiculous for you guys to threaten I can't see LOs or use them against me
SIL: this is fucking stupid...I don't have time for this jealous insecurity bullshit
DH: well when someone asks you to do something that bugs them please listen.
SIL: it's fucking done..be sure to tell her
Sil: hahaha...she's fucking jealous...and that's so dumb
Sil: whatever, all I care about is seeing LOs
SiL: this is the second time she's created drama over a fucking picture
SIL: and be sure to tell her I'll never take another picture of LOs..it's going to be hard...but whatever she wants..she's the boss apparently
SIL: and actually she didn't ask nicely..it was more like do do it if you want our relationship to be successful.
SIL: she should stop being so jealous it's not my problem
Anyways She removed picture I deleted and blocked her from debil. DH tells me she had a tantrum but wouldn't tell me all of the details of the messages when I asked. He just said let it go and move on and you and LOs don't need to see her in between holidays. We agreed holidays we would still go around as she's not always at them and we didn't want to miss out with the rest of family.
DH did inform me she thinks I'm withholding LOs as punishment. I was furious and informed her we will be taking a break from her because her behaviour is out of line. She ignores my communication to her and that is fine. She then starts texting DH again:
Sil: I can't believe you told DW what I said
SIL: you guys are absolutely ridiculous, pathetic and downright awful
SIL: I can't believe your DW gave me. Consequence I'm not a fucking child and didn't do anything wrong.
SIL: guess I have nephews I will never see because there parents can't grow the fuck up and stop being jealous and petty
DH never told me she continued to text him. I looked at his phone and had to discover these texts myself. I know it's wrong but I needed to know the facts for myself. I'm so angry and feel betrayed. He threw me under the bus I feel like and barley stood up for me. I confront him about the texts. He was angry I looked at his phone obviously and that I let things bother me like this and said that's why he didn't tell me because I let things bother me too much. I told him myself and LOs are off the table from now on and I'm feeling so hurt by her actions that I don't even think we should go around on holidays to mils when she's there. He lost his mind of course and thinks that his sister isn't abusive in anyway and she's not going to do any harm to LOs and thinks I'm over reacting. I feel like she has zero respect for me and I'm worried about parental alienation and her undermining my parenting. My children are small and would not yet understand but they will.
DH is now saying since we can't see his family that we will not be seeing mine. I realize this is actually irrational because what do they have to do with a the way his sister acts. Nothing.
The conversation went no where and I need someone to help me better explain myself to DH. For science sil is in her early 30s. And I think her reaction was outrageous.