Same old, same old. Old member new name. Crap ton of lurking, need guidance.
I had issues with my parents two years ago, some of my siblings took my parents side when the shouldnt have been involved. Which resulted in a TO till I was ready to deal with them. Dh push for me not to cut them off and to give them another shot. I eventually did. Since, i hadn't had issues but i do keep my distance. Can give more background if necessary.
Yesterday, I visited my parents home during lunch time. My sisters have been enjoying their time with LO, so obviously, LO was there. ((It should be noted that my LO is 2 and although she doesnt know what "park" means she knows what "parque (sp?)" means. She is spanish based.))
I went to the restroom and LO stayed in the dinning room with my parents and one of my sisters. Apperently, what happened was that my sister told my mom that she wanted to take LO to the park in english. My mom said "let your sister know, and wait till the sun goes down." My dad pipes up and says "oh, you wanna take her to the park?" In spanish. At this LO perks up and asks about it. My mom then tells my dad to not say park in spanish because she would start crying.
This is when I come into the dinning room again and LO is asking for the park. My mom is visibly annoyed with my dad and my dad keeps saying "yes park" in spanish. I ask in english
"are you taking her to the park right now?"
"No, your sister is"
" then why are you mentioning it now. Stop saying it, because she is 2 and doesnt seem to grasp the concept of later."
"Parque"
"Dad, I'm serious. Stop. Dont get her hopes up if we arent anywhere near her going outside."
"Parque"
"Fuck this I am leaving."
I start getting my DD and packing her stuff and "where are you going?"
"I'm leaving because dad doesnt seem to understand what 'stop' means"
" WHAT?! You are over reacting!"
"No, i am fucking serious. I will not have him work her up only to have her disappointed because of his BS."
At this point my mom says "No, No, Even please dont go. He'll stop." She turn to him "right?!"
He just smirks and says "yeah"
Stupidly, i stayed. Everyone else had been amazing except my asswipe dad. My issue is that I dont like him picking on LO jsut because he likes to see her react. She isnt a toy, and although tiny; she is still a person damnit. Not someone for his amusement. I am placing him on a TO again this time him alone. He isnt gate keeper and he isnt home much because of work. But should i let my mom and siblings know? Should i let him know? Or just TO him and play dumb with everyone else?
Edited so my title makes sense.
I had issues with my parents two years ago, some of my siblings took my parents side when the shouldnt have been involved. Which resulted in a TO till I was ready to deal with them. Dh push for me not to cut them off and to give them another shot. I eventually did. Since, i hadn't had issues but i do keep my distance. Can give more background if necessary.
Yesterday, I visited my parents home during lunch time. My sisters have been enjoying their time with LO, so obviously, LO was there. ((It should be noted that my LO is 2 and although she doesnt know what "park" means she knows what "parque (sp?)" means. She is spanish based.))
I went to the restroom and LO stayed in the dinning room with my parents and one of my sisters. Apperently, what happened was that my sister told my mom that she wanted to take LO to the park in english. My mom said "let your sister know, and wait till the sun goes down." My dad pipes up and says "oh, you wanna take her to the park?" In spanish. At this LO perks up and asks about it. My mom then tells my dad to not say park in spanish because she would start crying.
This is when I come into the dinning room again and LO is asking for the park. My mom is visibly annoyed with my dad and my dad keeps saying "yes park" in spanish. I ask in english
"are you taking her to the park right now?"
"No, your sister is"
" then why are you mentioning it now. Stop saying it, because she is 2 and doesnt seem to grasp the concept of later."
"Parque"
"Dad, I'm serious. Stop. Dont get her hopes up if we arent anywhere near her going outside."
"Parque"
"Fuck this I am leaving."
I start getting my DD and packing her stuff and "where are you going?"
"I'm leaving because dad doesnt seem to understand what 'stop' means"
" WHAT?! You are over reacting!"
"No, i am fucking serious. I will not have him work her up only to have her disappointed because of his BS."
At this point my mom says "No, No, Even please dont go. He'll stop." She turn to him "right?!"
He just smirks and says "yeah"
Stupidly, i stayed. Everyone else had been amazing except my asswipe dad. My issue is that I dont like him picking on LO jsut because he likes to see her react. She isnt a toy, and although tiny; she is still a person damnit. Not someone for his amusement. I am placing him on a TO again this time him alone. He isnt gate keeper and he isnt home much because of work. But should i let my mom and siblings know? Should i let him know? Or just TO him and play dumb with everyone else?
Edited so my title makes sense.