MIL complains about "being put on a schedule" UD TO has unleashed the bsc!!

My FMIL has been giving SO shit because she feels she should be able to text us when she's in the area and ask if she can come by and see LO. In his words, she "grilled him in front of his friend about it" 😤


She also apparently told him that she feels so sad about not getting to see LO that she had to go buy herself a new car just to feel a bit better. Boo hoo. 🙄


Even people I like usually have to make a plan in advance if they want to come over to my house. It's just the respectful way to operate right? She hasn't asked to come over in weeks. And now this 😡


.. My own mom has to make a plan in advance before coming over to my place too .. I don't like the idea of never knowing when someone is going to ask to come by. SO has trouble saying no, as do I, but I've gotten better.


My grandmother is the only person whose house I stop by unannounced

Tbh I would consider letting some people drop by, but Only people who bring joy to my life and my MIL doesn't fall into that category.


What are some good ways of articulating why it is wrong for her to demand this?


I know all communication should go through SO but I am so tempted to call her up and give her a piece of my mind.


I'm done emoting for him though. Life's been so much better since I started letting him do the majority of the communicating with her


The only time I contacted her lately was to invite her to LO's upcoming christening. Other than that I've distanced myself from her bsc.


Where do I go from here??


Thanks in advance 💕