So this question is really about my MIL, but I'll offer some quick BG. Late last year my BIL was diagnosed with cancer, and since then he's had multiple surgeries as well as chemo. He's young enough to still be on IL's insurance, and had to take leave from work for all of this, so his medical bills are falling mostly on the ILs. I don't know the full amount, but I imagine it's substantial, even with the insurance coverage.
Because of this, we all have been pitching in to try and help. DH and I paid $2500 towards bills (that's all we could do because we have medically complex kiddos and hit our out of pocket max every year, so our medical bills end up being a bit), SIL and her husband paid a similar amount, and I know they've been talking about organizing a fundraiser to earn money. As far as I know, they have no intention of paying any of this money back (which is fine, we figured that going into this). The point is, they are getting help.
So last night MIL approached me to "ask for a favor." She wanted to know if I could talk to my parents and ask them to help pay BILs medical bills. I was really blindsided by this. They certainly have the means to help, but something about the situation just makes me feel icky. I've never asked my parents for money (not even for me, let alone for someone else), so I just really don't feel great about this. I know my ILs need help, but is this too much? Or am I overreacting? Help me, DWIlLers.
Because of this, we all have been pitching in to try and help. DH and I paid $2500 towards bills (that's all we could do because we have medically complex kiddos and hit our out of pocket max every year, so our medical bills end up being a bit), SIL and her husband paid a similar amount, and I know they've been talking about organizing a fundraiser to earn money. As far as I know, they have no intention of paying any of this money back (which is fine, we figured that going into this). The point is, they are getting help.
So last night MIL approached me to "ask for a favor." She wanted to know if I could talk to my parents and ask them to help pay BILs medical bills. I was really blindsided by this. They certainly have the means to help, but something about the situation just makes me feel icky. I've never asked my parents for money (not even for me, let alone for someone else), so I just really don't feel great about this. I know my ILs need help, but is this too much? Or am I overreacting? Help me, DWIlLers.