So this is my second post I'm more of a lurker but I need some advice. Well my DF & I have been together for 2 years now and we have two sons together. Well his family is very enmeshed and feel that they are more important than me because we aren't married. We are getting married we are just doing it our own way. Anyways about 3 weeks ago my df's brother asked him to drive 4 hours away to pick up MIL she wants to visit. Df says no because of work but most importantly that was my due date. Well I just had DS #2 on 9/26/2015. Literally 6 days ago. Today my df gets phone calls from his brother asking what are we doing this weekend (it's Friday). Df says working even though he is off tomorrow (very rare) he works a night job mon-fri and another job 5-6 days a week as well. Then his mom calls and says come get me so I can see the baby. We have no problem with MIL & only MIL seeing the baby. But my DF hasn't slept since 5pm yestarday so we say no, and she gets an attitude. Whatever but my thing is his family wants us to come over tomorrow and bring our week old DS to meet them. I'm like hell no but df is like it's for my mom and she never visits blah blah blah. I told him that he and 15 month old DS #1 can go and he can bring his mom to visit afterwards. He says ok that's fine since we said no visitors until we both feel comfortable. I just know tomorrow there will be major issues with his family if I don't go. I haven't had much time to myself post partum. After 45 hour labor, being discharged without my son, & my son having jaundice pretty bad I'm exhausted. Am I doing the right thing by choosing to stay home tomorrow? Or should I suck it up and go since MIL never goes anywhere?
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