About the boundaries with my MOO.
I don't know who my bio dad is, so I feel I gotta put up with more since I only have my moms side of the family.
First off, my gramma and I are super close. She is extremely close to my sons. She brings them fresh fruit almost everyday. She buys them toys and clothes ALL THE TIME. She spoils them. They LIGHT UP when they see her. They LIGHT UP when we turn down her street because they know we're going to nanas.
She is 71 years old. Still drives. Lives alone. Very independent. And would be there for us in anyway. And has proven this to us many times. And we are always there for her as well. Anything she needs. We live close to eachother, so we see her everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. sometimes we go 2 days without seeing her, but that's it.
Reading here, I'm a little concerned were too enmeshed with her. She leaves all the parental decision making to SO and I. and I've never felt disrespected by her undermining my parental decisions.
BUT she says things...
"can I come get my baby fix?"
"how are my boys?"
"I love how they walk past you (me) and RIGHT to nana!"
Normally, I wouldn't think much of these things. And at first they didnt bother me at all. She loves my boys. But reading here, I feel like my "normal meter" might be off...
She's not crazy by any means... but my question is, if there's no other boundary stomping going on, are these little things ok??
Kids are both boys, and 20 months and 9 months.
I don't know who my bio dad is, so I feel I gotta put up with more since I only have my moms side of the family.
First off, my gramma and I are super close. She is extremely close to my sons. She brings them fresh fruit almost everyday. She buys them toys and clothes ALL THE TIME. She spoils them. They LIGHT UP when they see her. They LIGHT UP when we turn down her street because they know we're going to nanas.
She is 71 years old. Still drives. Lives alone. Very independent. And would be there for us in anyway. And has proven this to us many times. And we are always there for her as well. Anything she needs. We live close to eachother, so we see her everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. sometimes we go 2 days without seeing her, but that's it.
Reading here, I'm a little concerned were too enmeshed with her. She leaves all the parental decision making to SO and I. and I've never felt disrespected by her undermining my parental decisions.
BUT she says things...
"can I come get my baby fix?"
"how are my boys?"
"I love how they walk past you (me) and RIGHT to nana!"
Normally, I wouldn't think much of these things. And at first they didnt bother me at all. She loves my boys. But reading here, I feel like my "normal meter" might be off...
She's not crazy by any means... but my question is, if there's no other boundary stomping going on, are these little things ok??
Kids are both boys, and 20 months and 9 months.